......So he’s married

[GirlabouttownxXx]

I posted on here not too long ago. I was pregnant and wanted to reach out to the family of my ex as I felt I was being kept in the dark.

I reached out to his mother and told her she could be a part l of my sons life even if her dickhead son didn’t want to be. She was shocked as she knew nothing about me. Anyway I left feeling hopeful that I had done the right thing by my son.

He’s 4 months now. Never heard from her. So I wrote her a letter giving her one last opportunity to be in my sons life if she so wished. Nothing.

So I left it. Today I randomly was going through a social media site and found out that my ex got married early this year! I was fuming and obviously hurt. We had been together over 2 years. Everything was a lie.

He basically lied and said his visa had run out and that he had the leave the country all to escape taking responsibility for his child.

My question is should I tell his now wife? I have evidence of pictures but I deleted all messages to and from him on my phone. My family and friends say I should leave him to it but I just don’t think I can. I don’t want him back at all but should I let his wife know?

Sorry my writing is all over the place but I can’t sleep

Definitely tell his wife. She has the option to choose to leave him and not have children with him still, she should know before her own life could be ruined by him.

Your child deserves to be provided for by the biological father. This is nothing to do with letting the wife know or getting revenge. It's your responsibility to your child to ensure provision is made by the father. He doesn't get to abandon his responsibilities.

Thanks so much for the replies so far.

In answer to some of your questions he left the country apparently in September and got married abroad last month. I believe he was seeing both of us at the same time.

I’ve had pretty much no contact with him since our child was born so I’m not sure if he’s come back. I’m not sure if he lives here or abroad but he was here recently.

I think the visa story was a lie to get me to think he was abroad.

His mother and family are based here. I don’t think this marriage was to help him get stay in this country but tbh I don’t know what to believe because he’s a compulsive liar.

I just think she has a right to know because we have a child together. What she chooses to do is up to her.

I have been getting on with my life for months now but if the shoe was on the other foot I would want to know.

I will be contacting CMS today!