Divorce with young children involved...

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Hi all.

My question... has anyone here ever been through a one sided divorce/separation with young children involved? I'm not worried about the finances etc, but more the emotional side of things...

I want to leave. He wants me to stay. Bloody awful.

DS is 6 months. DD is 8.

Apparently I'm ruining his life. We just aren't right for each other. It's so hard being a motivated and proactive person, living with someone you have to nag for 6 weeks to put a photo on the wall...

I've made the decision. I'm going. He's in denial. Thinks he can change but I've checked out.

Anyone been through similar with a very small child and / or slightly older child involved? How did you manage things?

Anyone?

someone you have to nag for 6 weeks to put a photo on the wall

Sorry - don't get this. Why can't you - or someone else - put a photo on the wall? Seems a bizarre thing to break up over!

Yes, I have been there. Two children under three. It was hell - for all of us. We got through it and all four of us are probably in a happier place now. Can't say that any of us got out of it without deep scars.

@Cazziebo aka he does nothing. I cook, clean, look after kids, do school runs and if I ask him to do one thing he just fobs me off and puts the football back on. I can't do it because I'm not tall enough and have severe carpal tunnel which is worse because of my recent pregnancy. He doesn't care... every day of my life is like this and if I question him I should be grateful that he occasionally changes a nappy... I'm just fed up.

What kind of contact arrangement did you have in place for the kids?

He had access every weekend legally. In reality, he saw them one weekend a month. He moved quite far away and also had his hobbies to pursue.