Hi
I'm confused and need a bit of advice.
I broke up with my husband of 8 years 3 months ago due to years of emotional abuse, I'm okay with that and coping really well, think I spend majority last year detaching myself and I'm fine, no regrets. However, prior to meeting him I had a female friend who I had a emotional / physical connection with and we've stayed in contact on and off when we have not been happy, leaving each other to get on with our lives, my friend is now out as a lesbian, in the new year she contacted me and said she was single, we met up and had a really nice time then all of a sudden she said she wanted to be alone and next thing I know she's back with her ex girlfriend, I moved on myself and met someone female and had a few dates but turns out she's too needy and blows hot and cold so I ended it, I contacted my friend last week and just so happens again she's currently single again after a row with her ex girlfriend, we meets up for a drink, she said she'd like to see me take it slow, no pressure etc she's now away for a few days we've been texting lots and today she says she's still feelings her ex, (who altogether she's been with 5-6 months) including several break ups in that time, but would still like to see me, I just don't know what to do, I feel a but coming up.....
Prior to my marriage we was on and off but never in an exclusive relationship as our children were all little, fast forward 10 years their grown up now, why do we gravitate back to each other then one of us pulls the plug, and I'm left feeling like I'm hanging ?
I've done this to her before as well but we've never both been totally single whereas we are now or is she not, Her ex girlfriend is abusive also to her.