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Am i just over thinking things and getting a bot of anxiety

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Normalbloke1 · 18/02/2019 02:52

So ill start by saying im with a women i truly love with all i am she is my everything litterly we met 15 years ago was together for a year split up because i had to move away anyway i found her again last year and we just started off from where it ended sort of thing all thise fealings never left me i always loved her all that time she was always in my mind and i couldn't ever connect to anyone like i do with her iv been shit on alot in between time and everything has been perfect i wonna marry her and spend my life with her not a doubt in my mind but just resently some of her behaviour changed and its got me worried and my mind is just spinning basically my worst fear is to ever loose her again realy scares the shit out of me but any way all of a sudden she started a new agency job witch she is only on her second shift in two weeks first night she met a 20 year old bloke she admitted he flurted with her and she was flattered and so on i just shruged that off but they exchanged numbers i fort thats a bit wird why i asked she said just so we know if we are the same shift again ok cool but at the same time i noticed we are always cuddled up but now wen she gets a text she moves away from me she taes her phone every where with her now as well and when she does leave it out or we gi to bed she now turns it off not saying i cheak her phone just i pay the phone bills and i keep a cheak on the contract witch the app is on her phone so hear and there ill cheak the bill and tell her when to stop with the extra charge calls and photo texts and so on so this abnormal she never turns her phone off why now all of a sudden and i noteiced well i cant unlock it with my finger print once its been turned off i never asked for the pin she also has access to my phone by pin and finger if required to use it any time so by now my mind is spinning out of control alarm bells are ringing we have the same phone and the same phone case both our phones are on the table i grab a phone as we are going out she instantly jumps up saying thats my phone all defensive lile i give it to her get my phone next i note he has called 5 times in my presence she just hangs up wont Awnser in front of me and will text him instead i talked to her about the fact that im fealing quite anxious and so on she re ashored me se loves me and only me but then goes on to say yes she liked the attention and theres nothing wrong with a bit of flirting its ok i then said well not realy hes a 20 year old man chatting and flirting with a beautiful woman he aint arfter making a friend thats just common sense in my apion she disagrees im doing my own head in with fear of all this am i just suffering with anxiety or am i right in finking somethings very wrong hear and shes hiding something from me like now shes at work im scared shitless thinking is she realy at work or did i drop her and they went off or what i mean she always gives me a kiss befor going into work when i drop her he was standing there not far away giving me dodgy looks she just walked away no kiss as normaly would get i aint sleped in 3 days becuase of all this running in my head im sorry for the long ass story im just realy scared and wont too hear otheres apions on it.

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NotTheFordType · 18/02/2019 03:13

Could you re post this with paragraphs? It would really help old biddies like me.

Normalbloke1 · 18/02/2019 03:18

Im so tired and stressed i just wrote my mind

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rebecca102 · 18/02/2019 03:20

Hmm sounds bit dodgy. Personally I wouldn't put up with all the shady shit happening like with the phone. If there's nothing to hide then why so protective of the phone. Nope, I'd want to know exactly what the go was or I'd be gone.

Normalbloke1 · 18/02/2019 03:26

So ill start by saying im with a women i truly love with all i am she is my everything litterly we met 15 years ago was together for a year split up because i had to move away anyway i found her again last year and we just started off from where it ended sort of thing all thise fealings never left me i always loved her all that time she was always in my mind and i couldn't ever connect to anyone like i do with her.
iv been shit on alot in between time and everything has been perfect i wonna marry her and spend my life with her not a doubt in my mind but just resently some of her behaviour changed and its got me worried and my mind is just spinning basically my worst fear is to ever loose her again realy scares the shit out of me.
but any way all of a sudden she started a new agency job witch she is only on her second shift in two weeks first night she met a 20 year old bloke she admitted he flurted with her and she was flattered and so on i just shruged that off but they exchanged numbers i fort thats a bit wird why i asked she said just so we know if we are the same shift again ok cool but at the same time i noticed we are always cuddled up but now when she gets a text she moves away from me she takes her phone every where with her now as well and when she does leave it out or we go to bed she now turns it off.

not saying i cheak her phone just i pay the phone bills and i keep a cheak on the contract witch the app is on her phone so hear and there ill cheak the bill and tell her when to stop with the extra charge calls and photo texts and so on so this is abnormal behaviour she never turns her phone off why now all of a sudden.
i noteiced well i cant unlock it with my finger print once its been turned off i never asked for the pin she also has access to my phone by pin and finger if required to use it any time so by now my mind is spinning out of control alarm bells are ringing we have the same phone and the same phone case both our phones are on the table i grab a phone as we are going out she instantly jumps up saying thats my phone all defensively.

i give it to her get my phone next i note he has called 5 times in my presence she just hangs up wont Awnser in front of me and will text him instead i talked to her about the fact that im fealing quite anxious and so on she re ashored me she loves me and only me but then goes on to say yes she liked the attention and theres nothing wrong with a bit of flirting its ok.

i then said well not realy hes a 20 year old man chatting and flirting with a beautiful 30 year old woman he aint arfter making a friend thats just common sense.

in my apion she disagrees im doing my own head in with fear of all this am i just suffering with anxiety or am i right in finking something is very wrong hear and shes hiding something from me.
like now shes at work im scared shitless thinking is she realy at work or did i drop her and they went off or what i mean she always gives me a kiss befor going into work when i drop her he was standing there not far away giving me dodgy looks she just walked away no kiss as normaly would get.

i have not sleped in 3 days becuase of all this running in my head im sorry for the long ass story im just realy scared and wont too hear otheres apions on it.

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Normalbloke1 · 18/02/2019 03:37

Rebecca102 that's my forts but i honestly font have the strength too lose her again it would dest me and i know tjey say all wounds get better and easyer over time but it never did get better the last time we split 13 years apart it still heart every day and i always had her in my mind dont get me wrong i cant and wont stand for cheating if iys happening but id wont to at leadt try to get past it and move on rather than just walking away i cant just say i need your phone i wonna cheak up on you and i will know in 9 days how much time she spends on the phone to him and how many texts are sent cus ill received a detailed phone bill ie if theres been any photo messages or exssive contacted that pritty much confirms something is going on that should not be would i be unreasonably at that time to say dont contact him again and dont work there again is that contrling cus i dont wonna be that guy she said to me at one point when i was talking to her that she dont wont no one telling her who to talk to and not too cus her x did that too her all this higj emotion fealings are new to me and i dont wont it too turn me into a bad guy or for it too completely desroy any future we may have together.

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