Just need some advice about ex

[Janemay21]

Hi all
I’ll keep this as brief as I can.
I have 2 children with my estranged husband. We split up 3 years ago.
During that time he met someone else and started a new relationship. He kept this relationship very private and kept begging to get back together and we also shared a night together after he fooled me into thinking he had changed and got help for the abuse.
Shortly afterwards I found out about this girlfriend and that they are expecting a baby.
I feel like I should partly warn her what he’s like (emotionally and financial abusive) and the fact he hasn’t paid for or seen our children in a year.
But I’m worried that he’s got her thinking I’m some sort of psycho ex which I can assure you I’m not. I’m happy in a new relationship, but my partner thinks maybe I should just let her know on the side what he’s up to.

Ah I think I should leave it. help please

I can totally see why you would want to warn her but you will come off looking the crazy jealous ex.
I mean you could word it reasonably and say don’t feel like you have to reply to this but I just wouldn’t feel right without warning you what he has acted like in the past and how he has treated your children. Try not to make it about you but more about that you are worried for her and her baby and offer her support of she ever sees his true side.
I’ve never been in this situation so honestly I really don’t know if it’s a good idea, she could be totally blinded by love at this point, he could have painted you as the crazy jealous ex if he’s an abuser he most likely has.