That's the situation I am currently in.
I'm 27, engaged, and have a mortgage with my partner. To the outside world we look normal, but behind closed doors...not much is going on.
The last time we had sex was Christmas Day, and before that it was October. My sex drive is not especially high, but the lack of even some intimacy is starting to get me down. He sometimes wants hugs, but that's it.He has a very low sex drive, though he didn't used to. He's not interested, and is quite unfit generally, and on the rare occasions we have penetrative sex he finds it hard to finish, and usually gets too tired after 2-3 minutes. He also has to make quite an effort to stay up if you catch my drift. He's not interested in much foreplay and is anxious he will go soft.
I do not nag him, as I don't think that's the correct way to handle things. I do very occassionally bring it up, and he says 'we can do it tomorrow', Never happens.
I have suggested the GP, he says he's fine and doesn't need to go.
I've tried to explain how I feel about it. I must admit it does make me feel undesired and unloved - I don't even need penetrative sex, as there are other ways to have a sexual/romantic relationship. But it falls on deaf ears. He wants to spend his evenings on his Xbox.
It doesn't help that we don't sleep in the same bed - he has snoring issues and it creates a bad night for the both of us.
I do feel trapped. I feel I've had to accept certain things just aren't going to happen. I don't think we could conceive a child if we were TTC.
Is/ Has anyone else been in this position, and what did you do to resolve it?