Letter saying my boyfriend cheated

[becklostit]

Hi, I hope someone can give me their view on this.

I had a letter in the post saying that my boyfriend has been cheating on me. The letter says that it's from the boyfriend of the woman he has been cheating with. Not many people have our address and we aren't on the electoral roll or anything. This guy says it has been going on for ages but doesn't offer any evidence or way to contact him. He gave the name of the girl and her phone number so I could confront her but I've never heard of her and haven't been able to find her on social media. I've tried calling the number but it just goes to voicemail. My boyfriend says it's rubbish and is angry that I'm even paying attention to it. He says we must have really pissed someone off and completely denies cheating or knowing a girl with that name. I'm inclined to believe him because I've never even remotely suspected him of cheating and there just isn't any evidence. The thing that bugs me though is the fact that someone has gone to this effort and knows where we live.

This is probably way too obvious. Have you saved her number onto your phone and checked to see if she shows up on whatsapp or viber?

Although, I'm inclined not to believe it. Why would this man have given you her number, and not his?

I would ask to see his mobile bills if you can’t access them yourself. It may be whatsapp was used, however if you had no reason to think he was up to anything he may well have used his mobile. If he is totally innocent then he will be keen to show you those bills

Save the number on your phone and look up the profile pic on whatsapp

Check his phone bill for the number

Download snapchat and search for new friends with her contact number. Same with instagram and Pinterest

I’d be inclined to believe the letter. Sorry OP

I'd track his phone. I got a letter like this a few years ago - my husband denied everything so strongly that I ( almost) believed him. But like you, I thought " why would anyone go to the trouble of doing this if there was no truth in it". Sure enough, after some detective work, I discovered that everything in the letter was correct. I've never known who the writer was - it was anonymous but obviously from a work colleague of my husband - but I'm very grateful that they alerted me . I walked out, and found later that he'd been a serial cheater.

When I was younger my mum was sent a Christmas card that my dad was having an affair. They put the woman’s address in there, my mum drove out there one evening when my dad said that he was working and his car was there outside the woman’s house.

Call from your dp phone.

No smoke without fire...

Sorry but I would definitely investigate this further, it would drive me mad otherwise, always amazes me folk saying it's a nutter, ignore it, I'd not and I'd have to find out who the woman and or this man was to find out for sure.

No smoke without fire...

Not necessarily , they could be a few reasons this isn't true.

I'm not sure about a phone tracker, if a woman posted on here that here DH had put a tracker on her phone when there was no other reason to think she'd cheated she'd be told that he was controlling and to LTB.

Do you have a friend who could help find the woman?

Definitely ring her from your dps phone.

Caughtinanet Agree but there is another reason to think he is having an affair - the letter. It's there in black and white and I am all for people doing whatever they need to find out the truth. If it's bullshit then he has nothing to worry about but as others have said there is no smoke without fire and I would do whatever I had to to protect my own position but I have been burned big time.