Possible to break cycle or carry on as usual?

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First time poster, been married to dh for 25 years, met when i was 17, 3dcs. My dh has always drunk quite regular, not anymore throughout the week but binge drinks at weekends, either at home or pub. Dh can go out for a few hours doesnt stay out late often but in those few hours drinks as many pints as he can (last night a bottle of wine and 6 cans in 3hrs), hes aware that sometimes hes not nice through drinking as in annoying, other times he falls asleep snoring, next day hes always over nice. Im seriously thinking about leaving eventhough this has been on going for years im just at the point where im fed up of his drinking. Any advice would be greatly received, thanks.

Sometimes the repeated apologizing has the effect of wearing down the victims of the behaviour and making them feel guilty for kicking them while they’re down, so they back off and the behaviours start again.

Yes its like a repeated pattern isnt it and if nothing changes then im going to have to make the change myself as i no longer have the strength to keep this pattern as its wearing me down, thanks for the advice.

The fact that he has finally sought help is positive

Whether he will stick to not drinking , only time will tell

If I were you I would prepare for worst case scenario and get your finances sorted out , make sure you are covered on the rent/deeds etc

Just so if he fails to quit you can make sure you and the kids are ok financially and will be able to stay where you are living now/find somewhere to live

You've been with him since you were 17 so ending the relationship will feel huge to you. However the most important people in all this are you and the kids - and looking after you is priority

Only time will tell, i do question myself though if im over reacting and maybe its not as much of a problem as i think, but maybe its because its because weve been together so long that im just used to it which i know isnt healthy.

update After not drinking for a few weeks then suddenly more alcohol creeping in and a pretty crap weekend, my DH has been to an AA meeting, i feel really strange, its a positive step and took time to get here, im just scared if its 'too late' as how do i stop feeling resentment from all the years of him while drinking. If hes successful and stops drinking, hopefully he will be, will my feelings towards him change as at the moment im feeling detatched from him, its a time though where he really needs me