Just that really. Married for 10 years. Had sex 3 times in 3 years. Each time instigated by me, plus what feels like a bazillion times of being rejected since I had a pregnancy bump with “I’m too tired”. It’s now got to the point where I feel so repulsive to him that I think I don’t want to anymore either. I’ve tried to discuss it so many times but he refuses to seek help from GP, couples counselling etc and just says obtuse bullshit like “life gets in the way”. He offers no other physical affection. No compliments when I try to make an effort with my clothes, make up etc. I’m miserable, being around him just reminds me of how ugly I must be since I’ve had a child.
I realise sex dwindles as relationships get older and after children, but all the threads I see are complaining about “only” wanting sex every couple of months.
I’m in my 30s. I don’t want to spend the next 50 years living with someone who doesn’t show me any physical affection - not even a hug.