I had a non-relationship with an emotionally abusive guy. Terminated a pregnancy during this time. Yet I feel pathetic for not being able to move on properly, even after 6 months since the end of the 'relationship'. One friend today said to me 'he's ancient history' and 'he's long gone - why are we still talking about him?'. But the effects are present for me. A few months after the break up, I was feeling fine, but it only started to really hit me 3 months ago. I am frustrated I am still stuck in this rut, I hate it. I have a therapist, I have read self help books. Why can't I just move on and forget? It's awful being in this much pain. I can't even bring myself to date and I feel very lonely.