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Fed up

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Footloose80 · 15/02/2019 23:49

Dhs health has deteriorated recently. He will recover but it will take time.
If I am honest our relationship hasn't always been great. He hasn't done much I the house tbh got the last couple of years. This was ok as I only work part time.
However since his deteriorated he seems to forget that it has been like this for a while. For example this Christmas he physically couldn't do much but he forgets that he did bugger all the previous year.
Dud to his illness I have to drive everywhere and he is a dreadful back seat driver. All we do is argue.
Money has also become a bone of contention again. He has an expensive hobby which he spent 300 quid on this year do far. He has a special birthday coming up and has his eye on about 500 quid a worth if stuff. I think we spent 500 approx on my birthday but that was because I had a party and finances were better than.
Today I casually said that I might give an offer We had for a discounted holiday to a sibling. He jumped down my throat and said we aren't flush. I wasn't suggesting I go with them.
I just feel like I have to make adjustments due to him being off sick but he doesn't.
We have been out for a couple of meals as on holiday and I have carefully chosen set menus but he still has what he wants.
I have also not been able to book a short break for me and the kids as our finances are less secure.
I have been looking for more work but the reality is that I have even less time to work now as he needs more care.

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Footloose80 · 15/02/2019 23:52

Sorry pressed send too soon. Just don't know how to handle this so looking for advice.
I know so need to tell him how I feel but am I am overreacting.

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adayatthebeach · 16/02/2019 00:00

Your going through a bumpy period and you don’t sound like a very sympathetic person. He doesn’t even sound so very sick that you should be complaining so. What if he gets REAL sick??? You have any family support? I don’t know what to say I guess I’m no help. Count your blessings. Flowers

Footloose80 · 16/02/2019 00:11

I gave tried to be sympathetic but I guess I am feeling pulled in so many directions.
I have my own health issues too but I tend to just get on with it. The night before we came away on holiday I had been up most of the night with IBS/Tummy Bug but I don't think he acknowledged this for even a second. I had a colonoscopy under sedation and was caring for the kids straight after as he couldn't spare the holiday. A few month later he took a days leave for a convention he wanted to attend.

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