How do I get my sex drive back?

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I’m a bit lost and really don’t know what to do.

About 18 months ago I started on antidepressants, tried 3 different types over about a year. They all gave me various side effects including zero sex drive.

Four months after coming off them due to not coping with the side effects, I still have no sex drive and it’s destroying my relationship I’m fed up of waiting for it to come back. The doctors said it could take a few weeks but it’s been so long.

Has anyone experienced this? I do try and initiate things with my DP but I’m just really really not interested. We had such a good sex life before this and now we’ve done it about three times in 4 months. I love him very much and fancy him, I just don’t want him sexually. I feel nervous even thinking about it.

But do you think this could be psychological and that I’m just not used to it? When we do have sex, it’s good but I still don’t quite have the same desire. I don’t know how much longer I can do this.

Any advice would be really appreciated.

I don’t know if this is in the right section as well

Anyone?

Hi, I didn't want to read and run. I've had the same thing and it stopped me taking my antidepressants because it affected my relationship so much. And not being able to be satisfied too is just massively rubbish.

It sounds like you have a bit of a mental block. Can you try doing things with no pressure? I think having in your head 'I must want to have sex xxx times a week or I'm not normal' puts yourself under pressure too and it's just a vicious circle.

Is your partner understanding? You need to try and remove pressure form both yourself and your partner, even though it's hard for both of you.

It might take a while but it's only temporary. I know it's frustrating. But the more you can be at peace with how you are feeling right now the sooner things should improve. Does that make sense?

Watch Outlander. I am joking but sort of not.

What I mean is do sexy-adjacent things. Watch sexy TV, wear sexy clothes, if that floats your boat, go on dates, romantic ones. Do all the stuff around sex. While giving yourself permission not to have sex if you don't feel like it. Could kick-start something.