5weeks pregnant for Dh,but i dont want this baby

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i am miserable,i read a post about doing dh lundry and it made me laugh because i do all the lundry,ironing,cleaning cooking and everything inbetween and i have a demanding full time job,but he never appreciates it,he makes fun on me and says i am boring and u don't have a life,once walked out of the house at 10pm because i asked him to bring in the lundry while i was doing dishes,when i think of the things he has done to me i just get so bitter,for the first 8months of moving in with him he would not have sex with me,he has a password on all his phones/gadgets and deletes chats,he used to come home late without a good reason,later came to tell me that he was seeing (Airforce one) or chatting with his friends at work 4hrs after work closed, i called him out on the lie and he became violent and tried to choke me,my visa is dependent on him,he told me he will send me home to my poor family to die of hunger,calls me old and ugly looking,i am 30years and i try my best to look good. He didn't even give me a single flower for valentines day,if i get sick he becomes very angry and blames me for getting sick,and to make things worse i just found out im 5weeks pregnant,the thought of having a baby with him makes me physically ill,i think about the things he has done and i just sit and cry,he suddenly started becoming close with one of the models he photographs,when i asked him,he said i am not supporting his passion,that she supports him,so he will keep going to her,my passion is makeup but he gets into a rage and starts abusing me if i happen tp spend even 5extra minutes on my makeup,he calls me stingy but when i go to his wardrobe i see loads of things i got for him,but in my wardrobe there is nothing from him,i told him that once,just to point out that am not stingy and he said i should stop buying him things.he called his parents oneday yelling about not wanting this marriage anymore,because i had called him on one of the days he went for a photo shoot and asked why he hasn't called me all day,his mom was shocked she actually thougth i had an affair,i broke down and told her everything that happened and he was upset because i "washed his dirty linen in public" once when we travelled with family he got upset because i got myself a new handbag from the sales racks,he got himself things as well, and he threatened to slap me because i didnt offer to pay for groceries when we went shopping with his aunt and cousin,i just don't know what to do,Am i wrong not to want this baby?

Nugget, OP describes a life of being abused, of being choked etc, and it's clear they both treated themselves on the occasion she bought a handbag. You should really take your agenda somewhere else like the redpill site you probably came from.

Hi everyone its been a while, i finally got my pregnancy terminated and got an IUD, the domestic abuse and emotional abuse kept escalating till i finally told my family, i just could not believe how he suddenly turned me into a villian, the things he said about me, my own sister actually believed him, he is so good at manipulating them with words, the worst part of it all was that everyone believed him, he lied and twisted events and twisted my words to suit his own purpose,he acted like i exaggerated everything,like the incidents where just minor, he actually admitted to being violent and but when his cousins asked him in my abscence he denied it flatly, but the day they asked infront of me, he started to say, abuse did we mean pushing or slapping or giving blows? I just couldnt believe his cousins,the way they sat and said IF he hits me then thats absolutely a No for them, meanwhile it was obvious to them that he had lied previously about the abuse, he even promised my family that he would get counselling,
when i asked him about it the next day, he actually told me thats not what he said, that he will wait for the anglican church he attends to open post covid, then we can go and see the Reverend,i actually started to think i am losing my mind, so i started to record his abuse both, and shouting, it got to a point, i had friends listen in all the time, just to judge if i was going crazy and exaggerating things in my head, he still beat me on two different occasions, the last one i had pain in my back and had to go to A&E, a few days later, he asked me to leave the house,that he will change all the locks and i will sleep on the streets,because my keys wont work anymore, even went as far as calling my mom and siblings to say this, so i left and went to a friends house in Brighton,it cost me £50 a day going to work from Brighton, i asked him to give me a loan from the mortgage funds and he refused, when i asked to be given back my own share of the mortgage funds, he said that he had paid for my Visa so if want my money, to pay him back for it, while i was in Brighton i reported him to the police for domestic abuse, he got arrested and later released on bail, because he said no comments and wouldn't give a statement, im on my own now, i rented a place in london which took all my savings and my family also gave me some money to help with the rent,but im away from him atleast, to all the people that knew us, he literally turned me into a villian, all the lies he cooked up and told are horrible, i have been away from him since October but i still hurt so much,after he got arrested because my mobile line is linked to his, he reduced my mobile Data plan from 28 to 1.5, and it finished in hours,he is so vindictive that i wasnt suprised at all.I kept hoping he will change but i have realised he never will.

Well done for getting away.

You are very brave.

Best of luck.

What a nightmare you’ve been through OP - but you HAVE got through it, well done! You’re free of him and free to live your life now 💐

Well done |flowers] you are very brave

Get a termination also have you has FGM as well ? That makes the birth etc harder. Ring womens aid xx

Just read comments you are free of him it's hard but it's short term you will get a job and become independent xx

Thanks everyone, How are you all holding up during this awful covid-19 pandemic era, please let's all remember to protect our mental health, turn off the news if you need to, or go watch spongebob lol, but most importantly protect your mental health. It was a nightmare for me being married to him, but🤦‍♀️i am so happy its finally over, its like i have a new lease on life, im presently on the road to recovery and finding myself again,.physically its going quite well lost about 30kg, 😆hope i can keep it up, the rich tea biscuits wont let me be. Psychologically its a hit and miss but i am learning to tske it one day at a time.

Well done for getting out. I'm sure it's incredibly hard at the moment, but you're now in a place where you can start to build yourself up again without him there to drag you back down all the time. Very best of luck for your future :)

So glad you've escaped your abuser. Onwards and upwards!

I don't much about mobile phones, but can you get off the joint link? Hopefully other posters can advise.

OP..you've been through a lot. Well done for escaping....I originate from a country close to yours and I understand the culture and the outdated view that women should endure anything in marriage. They shouldn't.

I was wondering if you've had any counselling for the abuse? I know a counselling agency that does very low cost counselling. PM me if you're interested.

Take care and best of luck

Well done for leaving him, and for your weight loss too. xxx Keep going forward, following your plans. Don't let any man stand in your way. x

Well done, next you could do with getting your money back that you put into this sham of a marriage. Hope you are able to divorce him and receive what is rightfully yours to help with your living costs.

Wow...you sound awesome! Congratulations on getting away and good luck with your new life

Well done!!! From another rich tea biscuit addict