Normal bedtime for a 2 year old

[Redtree1]

I was just wondering when should be a sensible time to put your 2 year old to bed? Also, is it sensible to start a toddlers birthday party at 9pm with the toddler? (Singing, and dancing continuing for a couple of hours?)

My nearly 2 year old gets into bed between 7pm-730pm. However she's up between 5 and 6.
Sleeps between 2-3 hours in the day.
Works for us.
No one in their right mind would start a party for a toddler at 9pm imo.
Even when I've worked for continental families where adults and children go to bed at the same time at night parties are held in the afternoon after siesta.

Depends when they have to get up really. They need a decent chunk of sleep at that age.

A 9pm party would be very unusual for a child that age so it depends what kind of party. Most other kids that age would be asleep at that time but if the other guests are adults and the toddler is usually up late then I don't suppose it matters.

My boy is nearly 2 and is in bed by 7. I think 9pm is a crazy time, why so late? Toddlers need routine

My DD is 2.3 and her bedtime varies between 6:15-7:30 depending on no nap/nap.
9pm party, she would be miserable as would the guests given her standard routine, but relatives of mine have their 5 and 2yo up until 10pm plus a lot of evenings.

There is no ‘normal’ really.
Until they need to get up for nursery/school - you can have whatever schedule works for you.
It’s also a little cultural.
For e.g., Continental Europeans put kids to sleep later than in the UK. And get up later too.
For me - at that age - getting kids to bed around 9pm meant that they woke up 8-9ish....
I know people who put them to sleep at 6-7pm, but then had to deal with a very early morning.
I am not a morning person. So that didn’t work for me.

Not sure what sort of toddler’s party can start at 9pm.
Most kids would be too tired by then.

Mine 2 year old (well 2 next week) goes between 6.30pm and 7.30pm depending on what time they wake from a nap.

Her party is starting at 2.30pm so she can have a bath and normal routine for bed. Would no way start it at 9pm, I’m guessing she will stay up that late on holiday later in the year, but that’s when I’ll be wrapping her night up not starting it.

Depends on what they are used to though I suppose.

Thanks for your replies :) I’m just wondering because our next door neighbours are having a party now. I can hear them singing and dancing through the walls. It started with them singing happy birthday at 9pm (we know it’s the child’s birthday and how old she is) and it’s continiued for an hour and a half.

The child stays awake until after 10pm most nights as I can hear her making loud screaming sounds or whines. Just asking on here, as I was wondering whether it was too late for a child to be up, but I don’t want to judge as every child is different, but it is frustrating for us, especially as we are looking to get pregnant and have the same opinions that we would want to put our child to sleep early evening at that age and because the walls are so thin, I worried about our child being kept awake, but I suppose that’s an issue to figure out if it happens!

It depends what time they need to be up by. I always aim to give them the chance to sleep for 11/12 hours a night so for ours bed by 8pm and wake up at 7.30am (wishful thinking)
With regards to the party that time wouldn't work for us but I know of people whose kids could cope with that and have done similar. Mine would be a mess at that time of night and the next day would be a write off too. Each to their own though.

My boy is nearly 2 and is in bed by 7. I think 9pm is a crazy time, why so late? Toddlers need routine

I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times my night owl DD has been in bed at a time starting with a 7, and they’ve all been due to illness or jet lag.

At 2 DD would usually go down at 9:30/10pm and was up at around 8:30/9am.

And as that happened pretty much daily, i’d call that a routine.

@Redtree1

By the time you get pregnant and have the baby; and get out of 3-4hours feeding routine to a nightly bedtime - the neighbors’s kid would start nursery and will be forced to adjust his routine.

It’ll be fine. You all will adjust. The noisy toldder won’t stay that forever....
And your baby would be doing his share of noise - babies do cry a lot and often.

6.30 rigid but it depends on the child and yourself. If mine wasnt in bed by then you,d know about it. Crying etc. When i used to tell other mums at nursery they thought i was mad. Their kids would be up past 10. At the end of the day its what you decide is right. Mine needed at least 13hrs otherwise he would turn into an emotional monster and i would.