Limerence, feeling a right loony

[GaynorGoodwin]

I’ve gone through it, thank gawd it’s over. Basically spent 24/7 thinking of ‘him’ when I could have spent it on life itself. He’s never known (thankfully) maybe a tad of a crush (I bloody wished).

Anyhow, it’s over but the question is How do you forgive yourself?

Am I making sense, anyone. Please be kind.

You are making sense to me

Unfortunately I can't provide advice because I'm still trying to work my way out of the heartache tangle

Thanks Barton but sorry to hear you can relate. I feel like a right tit and I kind of know he knows something but forgiving myself is the hardest.

Hope you find a way through this x

It's the internalised embarrassment that you have and the inward cringe at silly things you did or said I get it

I don't know if it qualified as limerence but for most of 2017 I was really hung up on an acquaintance from university (I last saw him in 1994) who was all about the texting and Facebook messaging but not so much about the meeting up and y'know, having a relationship. I asked him to meet for coffee/beer a couple of times, which he politely swerved so I decided enough was enough. I thought about him loads when we were in touch though - he dominated my mind.

Think of it as an illness you've now recovered from. You wouldn't beat yourself up for having flu, would you?

You had a crush on someone. It’s a feeling, and as such - not something you control.
You can, however, controlled your actions. Which you did. Judging by your post - the crush didn’t turn into anything more.

Not sure what you need to forgive yourself for?