Valentine's Day! Do you make a effort?

[GirlOnIt]

We don't generally bother as my birthday was just last weekend, so usually just a card. I got Dp a card and some sweets (he likes kids sweets, refreshers, double lollies etc, so filled a small gift bag with a mix of stuff). I got a card and my favourite chocolates and some beautiful flowers delivered. Was thinking Dp would cook or we'd get a takeaway but he's has text to say he's booked a restaurant and his mum will come baby sit Ds.

I just can't really be bothered! But I know he's really trying at the moment and I probably should go. The thought of getting dressed up and doing make up etc is just not appealing.

That’s a kind gesture and he sounds like he has really planned a nice date night but I also understand how you can feel a bit “meh” too. All I can say is if I’m in that sort of mood , i have found making myself get off my butt, to wear something nice but comfortable and rather than full makeup I’ll just do hair and which takes the stress off and then I find I usually have a great time despite myself :)

We don't really do anything, but if DH booked a restaurant I'd definitely change my outfit, comb my hair and make the most of it. Sounds like he's trying to be nice!

Go for it - sometimes you just need that shove to get you out the door and you'll probably have a lovely time whereas I'll be wrestling DD into bed whilst DH goes to Sainsbo's

Well my last LTR, the first couple of years I just bribed DS to go out with his mates, took DP to the pub then home for sex.

The last year, we were really short of cash. I sent DS out, cooked my ex's favourite meal - steak with potato dauphinoise.

Obviously didn't do that good of a job since he dumped me a month later 😒

I'm jealous. DH does nothing for Valentine's, often nothing for birthdays or Christmas either. If he booked a restaurant AND babysitter I would go into shock.

I hate the whole idea of valentines day.
I made sure any longer term relationship guy knew this too.
If they wanted to make an effort then they could make a card and cook me a meal but I hate pandering and contributing to the card stores profits for a day that is crap.
It's all just commercial shite.

But.....your DH is making an effort and it's 1 day a year.
And I totally understand the not wanting to make the effort with make-up etc.... so don't wear any.
I very very rarely wear make up and I'm old!
So you'll be just fine without it.
Have a nice evening, just the 2 of you!

Cards and I'll do a nice meal tonight. Not really gifts. Well I've not bought anything for DH bar a card 😬.
Tomorrow we're going out for cocktails and a nice meal with friends.

Yes, I know I need to just motivate myself to get ready. I'll jump in the shower and put some music on that will help.

It's a small local restaurant too, so I don't need to be glammed up. But maybe not my leggings and Dp's hoody that I'm sporting right now.

I find that if I'm feeling a bit knackered, if I do dress up and force myself to show some enthusiasm then it tricks me into thinking I'm enjoying it, and I end up having a good time

I'm going for flowers. The idea with the sweets is nice - I'd love that gift myself.

He probably gets sick of it raven. I do similar for must special occasions but he's so hard to get little token gifts for, he doesn't even like chocolate. He's got a giant double lolly, drumstick lolly, refreshers, some love hearts those kind of things.

I've definitely no excuse, he's on his way home early so he can sort Ds out while I get ready.
Now to decide what to wear!

Very glad I made the effort! Was a lovely evening

Yeah! Really glad you enjoyed it.
It is nice to get out, even if you are knackered!

We got supper from the chip shop, but drank a bottle of champagne with it. I had got a silly couples trivia quiz from Tesco and we played that and ate a box of Hotel Chocolat valentines chocolate. We had a really nice evening and in the course of playing the game amicably resolved a couple of things i thought might lead to arguments before they were sorted (where we are going on holiday and when DH will retire) Apart from horrendous indigestion at 3am a very pleasant evening. Restaurant meals are always a bit of a problem for us as I'm vegetarian and DH is coeliac.