Wedding ring or engagement ring

[Blueflower22]

Hello ladies please can you advise me.
Me and my partner are going to have a regions ceremony to get married soon, I'm not sure if he's going to propose to me or we're just getting married straight like that. I don't really want to ask him if he's proposing because it doesn't seem right. I am confused over whether to get an engagement ring or wedding ring or a bridal set. Can I still wear an engagement ring if I wasn't proposed to? And I don't want to ask him for a wedding band for definate because he might still propose, just not sure!

Surely you can wear whatever you want to wear? If there was no proposal I'd assume you'd wear a wedding band only, but there are no rules to tell you what jewellery you are allowed to wear.

What’s a regions ceremony?

What is a regions ceremony?

But if you have decided you're getting married, the fact that you weren't actually "proposed" to is irrelevant. You can wear an engagement ring, a wedding ring or a coke tab if you like. Usually an engagement ring is a gift from your partner. But if you want to wear one that says you're getting married and he's not buying it for you, sure, go ahead and buy one for yourself.

For myself, I have an engagement ring but hardly wear it. It felt a bit odd to wear a diamond that symbolised that my partner wanted to marry me. I wear it now as a normal ring on the other hand and just wear my wedding ring.

What's a regions ceremony? If neither of you has proposed how can you be planning to get married? Confused.

Personally I prefer the bling of an engagement ring but wear what you want!

Do you mean a religious ceremony?

If it was one or the other I’d wear a wedding ring as that’s what symbolises your marriage. Most women do wear both though and plenty have an engagement ring without an official proposal.

@Bess78 @NameChangeNugget sorry I mean religious

Is your to be husband (I am assuming you are actually having a legal marriage ceremony and not only a nikah or blessing type ceremony?) Going to wear a ring? If so then it makes sense you both wear wedding rings.

If not, then don't wear anything if you don't want to. Otherwise wear whatever you like.

I wouldn't buy myself an engagement ring without there having been an engagement but there isn't really any harm in it. No need to stick to any conventions.

If your relationship is solid enough for marriage, you should both be mature enough to sit down and have a conversation about this. This is literally like the easiest decision you should have to make as a future married couple. Just talk to him about your plans together.

If he does plan to propose, then talk about what you'd like in a ring. It's not 1920 anymore. You can pick it out together. If money is an issue, I would just focus on wedding bands and planning for a future together. An engagement ring is nice (I love mine, we bought it together and my now dh proposed on a day he planned), but it's not necessary nor does it have to be expensive (mine is bespoke, bought the stone and had the setting designed for us by a jeweller, still less than a 1000). But if you can't talk about this, you shouldn't be at a point to be getting married, so just sit down and talk about what you both want.

Wear what you like. Not quite sure what you mean about getting married soon, yet you seen quite unprepared. Is it only a religious ceremony, or will you be having the legal aspect too?

Have a wedding ring ready for the actual ceremony - if he doesn't give you an extra 'engagement' ring and you want one, just buy one afterwards that matches the wedding band.

Surely if you're about to get married, there has been some kind of proposal? Surely someone proposed the married - you didn't just book it without discussing?

I have both an engagement ring and a wedding ring. However, I prefer to wear my wedding ring as it is much more meaningful to me. Also, although I love jewelry, I am very specific as to what kind and I hate bling.

So, to answer your question, I'd go for the wedding ring instead. That's just my opinion though.

Happy Valentines Day!

Have you set a budget for the wedding? If so, how much have you allocated against rings?
Surely you can have a conversation that starts "darling, we need to think about rings. Are you having a wedding band? What sort of metal do you think we should go for? And don't forget I haven't actually had an engagement ring - I'd like one at some point, but maybe we save that for an anniversary? What do you think darling?"

@Dirtybadger Noo we are only going to have a nikkah so I am not sure if he will propose or we will just have the ceremony

Please be aware that a nikah is not a legal marriage ceremony. A court case last year may be changing that but in the meantime you would not have the legal protection that marriage brings. If you want to be married in the eyes of the law you'll need a legal marriage or civil partnership. Neither need be a fancy affair.

A couple of useful webpages from Citizens' Advice:
Marriage vs Cohabiting
Civil Partnership vs Cohabiting

Generally I’d say just get a wedding ring and accept that you are engaged. But as you’re not actually getting married I’m not sure what you should wear, either before or after some symbolic ceremony. I’m not sure mulling over the jewellery should really be your focus right now!

Will you have a legal ceremony as well? If not, why not?