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amytwinehouse · 13/02/2019 15:55

Not sure if this should be an aibu or not, but my bf called me this morning for a chat (doesn't normally do this during the day) and then asked if I'd sent anything in the post, hinting at a valentine card. I said maybe and he said oh yeah, how's your left-hand handwriting?

So he went into depth describing it despite me saying almost straight away that it can't be from me as I didn't use my left hand. He said the envelope looked like my writing. Then he was acting all confused, like who could it possibly be from. I suggested his DD (7) and he dismissed this idea. But then said maybe and that was the end of it.

So I asked him to text me a pic of the envelope and he refused, saying if its not from me why did I want to see it. I said I was curious, but he point blank refused, saying it doesn't make sense that I want to see it and that I was strange for asking.

I think it's perfectly normal to be curious about this and think he's being weirdly secretive not showing me it after telling me all about it. So basically now we know it's not from me it's none of my business. Am I strange? Is he being weird? Confused

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amytwinehouse · 14/02/2019 11:45

rhubarb my gut feeling is that there is a card, clearly from his dd but he's tried to make me jealous by suggesting it was from me, knowing full well I'd deny it, then speculating about who it could be from. Showing me would reveal that it was very clearly from DD and he was being an immature prat.

aj that thought is beginning to creep in now, but if that's the case they can both fuck off to the far end of fuck :) and then some more for good measure x

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NekoShiro · 14/02/2019 12:09

There's no card he was just trying to make you jealous otherwise he would just send you a photo of it cus it's not a big deal, also why wouldn't he recognise his DDs hand writing? As if, plus the fact that he blew up when you asked for proof of his lie is pretty telling

HeckyPeck · 14/02/2019 12:33

This is exactly how my ex used to act. Goad me into being jealous then call me a psycho.

He’s an ex for a reason!

ThankYouNext19 · 14/02/2019 14:10

Avoid any man who thinks its ok to try make you jealous then call you a psycho, especially at his age!! Immature

amytwinehouse · 16/02/2019 15:58

I dropped by his to get some stuff and couldn’t resist asking to see the card. It was 100% as I expected just like his DDs writing. They stay in a different town so I suspect the envelope would have a postmark giving that detail away.

I think he knew very well the card was from his DD but tried to make me jealous by claiming he thought it was from me then doubting it could be his DD...
He said he didn’t want to show me the envelope cos he thought I was trying to find out who it was from? So? And that it meant I didn’t trust him. We had a fall out last summer about a female friend of his he’d been texting but he had lied about how much they texted because he thought if I knew then I’d suspect something was going on. She’s come up a few other times since as they’re still friends.
So, he said today that he thought I thought the card was from her and that’s why he wouldn’t show me!!

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HeckyPeck · 16/02/2019 16:08

He sounds sneaky OP. He accused you of being a jealous psycho & is now saying he thought it was from his “friend” who he innocently texts, but had to lie about so you wouldn’t get jealous.

He’s sounding more and more like my ex, who did turn out to be a cheat.

People who aren’t doing anything wrong don’t lie about things.

Mum4Fergus · 16/02/2019 16:29

I'd bin him off in all honesty...just playing games with you.

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