How long did it take your relationship to settle/recover after having children?
DH and I are mid thirties and have been together 10 years. We have 2 DC, one age 3 and the other six months. So we're in the trenches at the moment so to speak!
We don't really argue as in scream and shout. But we do bicker quite a bit about silly things. I get cross and he sulks. I refuse to argue in front of our children so often these little bickers go unresolved, probably because they are unimportant in the first place!
We're both tired, he's at work 7-7 Mom-Fri and I'm at home with both children (I am happy to be a sahm. We have no financial worries and own our house). He currently sleeps in the spare room because baby is still in with me having night feeds and he has a long drive so I don't want him driving tired. He gets up with the toddler if he wakes in the night but that's not often. I do most of the housework as I'm the one that's here.
We've managed to get out for dinner for DHs birthday once since baby arrived which was lovely and really reminded me that we need to try to make a bit more time for us. We're just getting our evenings back now baby goes to bed at 7ish, same as the toddler. But we tend to just eat dinner in front of the telly and flop to be honest. Sex life is non existent.
We love each other, and we like each other too. But at the moment I feel like we're flat mates with childcare responsibilities rather than a couple who snipe about stupid things that never used to matter.
Any insights from those who've been there and done it and are a bit further down the line than we are?