How do you cope/get past hearing that your ex may be with someone else?

[mjvb123]

Bit of a lurker on here for the past couple of months, but have never started a thread of my own!
So I went through a nasty break up some four months ago (it doesn't feel that long!)
After a few problems, an argument lead to my ex 'ghosting' me, and ignoring my apologies and not wanting to discuss/give closure to our relationship.
I gave up looking for answers, and have managed 3 months NC.
We have a couple of mutual friends, of which I'm still in regular contact with. Who have given me bits and pieces of info with regards to how he feels about the relationship ending. Saying he did want to talk to me, that he didn't want to end the way it did, that he was sad.. etc, etc!
A month ago I learnt he plans to move to abroad. This did give me a 'wobble' and I did wonder about breaking the NC, just at the thought I couldn't bare him leaving with the ways things have been left. But that temptation seemed to cool.
Anyway, over the weekend when meeting with said mutual friends, they hinted that he may be engaging in a 'FWB' situation with a friend

You just do. Focus on yourself, focus on things that make you happy. Tell these mutual friends that you don't want to hear about him. Move forward, not backwards

I think that hearing snippets doesn't help moving on. In my case it made me obsess about what the info meant, could I find Perot online etc which is unhelpful and destructive.

He's not going to tell your mutual friends that he's relieved it's over, never wants to talk to you again, has shagged other people unless he's super nasty. He'll know that they are talking to you and if he's normal then he'll not want to look heartless and risk losing your mutual friends.

Moving on is tough, especially when they are further on the process. Focus on what makes you happy- friends, family, career, hobbies... You will get there

Perot should be evidence

Tell them not to tell you stuff.
Work on your self.
Your Mind will make up all sorts of stuff.
You're doing great and it will be ok.

Sorry I ended up posting too early!
The person in which he's rumoured to have started a FWB situation, is a former friend, who has sided with him since the end of the relationship.
She always made it clear to me that she fancied him, whilst at the same time saying she didn't think he was good enough for me.
I know we're all entitled to move on, and we all do it at different speeds.
But every time I feel like I'm getting somewhere, the pain comes back and I feel I'm at square one.
I have now told our mutual friends I don't want to hear anything about him, unless it's extreme/need to know circumstances.

She is also actually in a relationship, so I'm disgusted at them both!!

Definitely tell your friends that you don’t want to hear any more about him. There’s a reason why NC is recommended for break ups. Once you’re properly over him you won’t care less who he’s hooking up with.

@goldengummybear
Thank you. That's what I need to hear. I've been fed false hope of remorse on his side, and that he will magically reappear at some point.
But you've put perfectly, that he could simply be saving face.
That is helpful.
To be honest, after hearing this latest development, I know I don't really want to hear from him. Why would I want someone in my life, who has shown such a lack of care for my feelings?
It just my wounds seem to be constantly reopened!!

@Robin2323 Thank you, very kind of you.
I started a new job at the beginning of the year. It has been a godsend, in helping me to redirect my focus.
I have been proud of myself for 'owning' my mistakes, and acknowledging where I went wrong. I know as much as I'd like to at times, no good would come from me contacting him.

@wishywashy6 @ImNotKitten
I have told them I don't want his name mentioned from now on. Unless there is anything important/need to know.
For example; when exactly he's leaving! That's not confirmed, and I would like to know.
Though I would have preferred he told me himself