Hello, I've been with my dh for a very long time and we have one ds who's a toddler.
As title says really I'm heavily financially dependent on him, discussed getting a job but that would essentially pay for child care and I'd get zero in or enough to save to leave.
Things haven't been right for a while, I feel miserable, were either arguing or passive aggressively hating each other. I think we at this point are coexisting for the sake of it, for the sake of ds.
There's no relationship anymore, in the sense we do things together, have things in common (he sits playing games on his pc until 1am, or leaves me on my own in a different room) or sexually. I don't feel like I use to feel for him and at this point I don't want to actually try get back to that anymore.
He's been told how I feel and it usually ends in a "divorce me then" argument. I don't know what to do anymore, it's been so many months feeling like this. It's everything, I don't feel physically attracted to him anymore or emotionally and I do feel terrible but I can't help how I feel.
On top of this he says if I go he will take my ds, which I'm not sure how he intends to do this as he works but he's blackmailing me with my postnatal depression I had when ds was born (saying I'm unstable, using things against me).