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Boyfriend Lied

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Kellyjanexoxo · 12/02/2019 23:32

My partner lied to my face about receiving a text from his ex girlfriend and whom has also caused a few problems in the past, but turned it around on me when I found out he had lied! He’s now saying I make him miserable and unhappy. He’s been a serial cheat in the past and begged me back after a year promising me the world but 2 months in and hes back to his old self. Anyone else in a similar situation but finding it hard to leave?

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lifegoes · 12/02/2019 23:52

Sounds like gaslighting going on. Easy for them to blame you, and refuse to acknowledge he is in the wrong.

You need to breakup, I'm sorry but this isn't his first and he'll continue to cheat. He has no respect for you and you deserve so much more.

Sorry if that's harsh.

MumsyJ · 13/02/2019 00:49

Well, I haven't been in position where I find it 'difficult to leave'. But once a cheat, always a cheat, remember!

He won't change OP, walk away with your head held high. And please stop taking him back now, will you? Hmm

grincheux · 13/02/2019 00:51

Why are you finding it hard to leave? Genuine question, I don't mean for it to sound sarcastic!

KennyCalmIt · 13/02/2019 01:22

He won’t change

It’s obly been 2 months and he’s already let the mask slip.

theworldistoosmall · 13/02/2019 01:57

Dump the loser. He has no respect for you. Has no feelings for you. Doesn't give a shit about you

pissedonatrain · 13/02/2019 03:02

Why are you finding it hard to leave? It's only been a couple of months.

He is a liar and a cheat and that will never change no matter what he says.

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Kellyjanexoxo · 13/02/2019 06:27

We’re were together 4 years before this!

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LemonTT · 13/02/2019 08:16

So 4 years of serial cheating. He is a cheat and with that comes lying to keep you off his back. Which seems a bit moot because even knowing what he does you stay or take him back.

So why does this incident matter to you now? What are you going to do? If you can’t leave then he will do this again and again. He did it to his ex, which explains her behaviour in the past.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 13/02/2019 10:28

He’s now saying I make him miserable and unhappy.

So tell him to piss of with his bit on the side then.

C'mon, have a bit of self respect!

SandyY2K · 13/02/2019 12:40

What future are you expecting with a serial cheat.

Perhaps suggest you have an open relationship and he can stop sneaking around... once he agrees to it...dump him as it's not what you want.

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