I'm finding it hard processing my feelings here so would be great to get another opinion here. My ex and I split for various reasons but have tried remaining amicable. He has children from a prior relationship who i became close to.
His ex has always been a very strong. controlling sort and it's her way or the highway. It's not targeted at my ex, it's just how she is but she can be particularly nasty with him. I had no contact with her whatsoever because I knew she had a rep for being manipulative and I wanted to stay far away from all that. I just tried being civil. However even now I can see how difficult she is being with my ex (nasty texts, critical etc). Children are more grown up but still very much under her influence.
I find the whole situation horrible, and despite not being with my ex, find myself really disliking her again as well as frustrated that the children take her side with ex being pushed out of their lives.
They still contact me and send me cards etc. I do care for the children but I do feel that they can't fully be in my children's lives just because of the mother they have. I just think she is poisonous and it pisses me off that there are people like this who seem to land on their feet whilst being nasty.
I guess I want to understand why she still gets to me even now, I shouldn't care at all but she irritated me before and still does now!