Should I ask him out?

[SparklesAndUnicorns]

So long story short I've been a single mum for about 3 years and I haven't been at all ready to date until now, I have a 6 year old and a 2.5 year old and they are my world, their dad has only had them once and that was over last xmas so I don't have much time to myself. There is a single dad at my daughters school who I occasionally say hello to and who I am super attracted to, there is quite a big age gap between us so I don't know if he would even expect me to find him attractive. But I have lost all of my confidence to talk to him! I'm really looking for some moral support and some words of wisdom because I really want to get to know him but I'm so stupidly shy about it all! He only lives up the road from me and his daughter is the year above mine. I know a few people who know him better than me so I know he is completely available it's just a big step for me after being single for so long I've lost the knack! Help!

Well the only way to get to know him is to speak to him I'm afraid.

I'd keep it simple "hello, your who ever's dad aren't you? I'm name, daughters mum. How are you?" Big smile.

You really can't go wrong if you've no expectations beyond introducing yourself.

Go for it! You only have to say “fancy a coffee”.

Oh, OP, this is lovely. Both PP suggestions are good. The worst that can happen is that he gives a polite thanks-but-no-thanks answer - but even then you will have lost nothing. Needless to say, I hope he does more than that!! Good luck...

The old coffee chestnut, is an olden but, golden. Give it a go OP

So I took the plunge and got a mutual friend to throw my interest into conversation and he's interested too! 😁 we've spoken a few times since and we now have eachother on social media, it's going slowly as we don't see eachother a lot but it's a start and I'm feeling positive!

Nice work!

It’s not the same, but I’ve started a coffee date with some mums after drop off when I’m not working. Can you suggest a coffee and chat one day?

I'm totally working up to it, even if it's just taking the kids to the park after school one day, no pressure just getting to know eachother, he's been initiating conversation so im feeling really good about it, gutted it's the school holidays now so I won't get the chance to see him! Don't know if it's too forward to just send a message to him on Facebook and ask him out?

Just send him a message and ask if he would like to go for a drink sometime.

Worst he can do is say no.

Good luck.

Long story short I asked a friend to put in a word for me and he's in a relationship, but he still text me and asked me out! Obviously said no way. Dodged a bullet with that one if he's happy to cheat on his girlfriend with me don't want a man like that in my life!

Yuck, what a shithead, well dodged op. Onwards and upwards!

:O ugh. Good job you found out.