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Relationships approaching exams

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rainbowsRcool · 11/02/2019 19:43

Dear all

My ds14 is in year 9 and is working hard towards his GCSE's but has just started a relationship with someone at his school. I am worried about how to manage this, on the one hand I do not want to interfere, but on the other I am worried that this will distract him from his studies. How have other people felt with this

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purpleboy · 11/02/2019 20:12

Just let it run its course, it's yr 9 chances are it won't last long. This is not the most crucial year, different if yr 11, but for now try not to overthink it. Obviously if something changes, grades drop then you can address the situation, but until then I'd just leave it be.

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rainbowsRcool · 12/02/2019 20:02

Guys I am gonna need some more advise than this

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paprickapaull · 12/02/2019 20:03

I would let my son kiss and sing behind the bike shed

feliciabirthgiver · 12/02/2019 20:05

Leave him be, he's in year 9, this is all life experience for him.

TheSmallAssassin · 12/02/2019 20:06

I think purpleboy is right, just let him get on with it and don't start worrying about problems you don't have!

If you see him falling behind on homework, then you will need to talk to him about making sure he has his priorities right, but he's in Y9, not Y11 so calm down a bit!

Cheeseandapple · 12/02/2019 20:09

Definitely calm down over it. Not a big deal. Also think your reply to the pp reads quite rude and dismissive considering they've taken the time to read and respond to you.

beeRB · 12/02/2019 20:17

It's not your relationship to manage. Let them be- if his grades clearly start to slip then maybe ask some questions but it he is entitled to have a relationship without you interfering.

It might work out and they stay together forever Thanks or more likely it will fizzle our after a few months like most teenage relationships do.

He will only resent you if you interfere.

2019willbegreat · 12/02/2019 20:23

You are completely over reacting. Step back. The more you say no the more he will turn away. They are more likely to want to study together than anything else. And if they don't- there's very little you can do....horse to water and all that. Acknowledging the "relationship and being supportive will get you much more favourable behaviours

2019willbegreat · 12/02/2019 20:24

@cheeseandapple.....agree

Lightofday · 12/02/2019 20:32

Yeah, any 'exams' at 14 don't matter lol.

Not even sure the exams at 16 even matter tbh xD unless he is planning to leave straight after.

Let him enjoy his young love. Let's face it, it's often all downhill from there.

purpleboy · 13/02/2019 23:47

She obviously didn't get the response she wanted Confused no harm done, you can't reason with stupidHmm

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