The beginning of the end?

[tartandreams]

It feels like my marriage has been going downhill for a while now, but recently it really does feel like the beginning of the end, for a number of reasons. I don't feel like I know my husband at all anymore, and to be honest, I don't want to know him.

For those who have split, what was the beginning of the end for you?

Finding him 'being intimate' with another bloke in our double shower kinda spelt the end for me ( I'm a woman ) I couldn't compete .

I no longer tried to discuss what was going wrong, because I knew it wouldn't make any difference. Like, no point arguing about him spending anything we had spare, because he'd turn it round on me. No point agreeing he'd be the designated driver for once, because he'd drink anyway. And so on.

Final thing was, he lost his job and texted me about it, and all I could think of to write back was "OK". The drive to get through things just wasn't there any more.

I think if you fantasise about them dying in an accident so that you wouldn’t have to stay with them, but would get sympathy, is a very bad sign! Well that’s when I realised it anyway.
And I’ve met a lot that have said the same.

(Obviously in real life I don’t actually want him to die! )

When I realised I’d stopped looking for signs of him still seeing his OW because I actually didn’t care anymore.

We tried to repair our marriage after his affair, but it didn’t work. The trust was gone and, actually, I had to confront the fact that I would be much happier and in better mental health on my own.

I was about to say the same as Travis.

Also if you ever look at them and feel pure dislike, no love at all, it’s over.

When I heard his key in the door after he'd been away on business for a while. My heart sank. That was the exact moment I knew. I'd been sort of thinking it for a while and had given up trying to fight for the marriage a couple of months earlier

Yes I remember thinking life would be easier if he died in a car crash when he went on a day trip once.