Nothing to talk about

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I have nothing to talk to my partner about. We have a now 7 week old baby and I've been on maternity leave for 11 weeks. Aside from talking about baby, school runs and the older kids (from our previous relationships), I have absolutely nothing to talk to him about. It's really starting to upset me as I feel like our relationship has ground to a halt 😔 I know this won't last forever but right now it's really affecting me

Did you used to have a lot to talk about? Do you think it’s because of tiredness?

We have always had a great relationship and the best conversations and fun together. I know it's because I have no social life and no work life anymore. I've nothing interesting to say about anything other than kids. I worry that he thinks I just don't want to bother with him anymore

You need a controversial box set to watch. The hours we spend talking about tv would stun you!

You’re being very down on yourself. Your baby is teeny tiny and you must be shattered. Cut yourself some slack, I’m sure he doesn’t think you’re no longer bothered by him, has he said that or do you think you’re projecting a bit because you’re busy and tired looking after your new baby?

Do you watch the news or shows together?
At 7 weeks I guess you’re pretty sleep deprived and over analysing, life picks up again.

At 7 weeks post partum and several kids in the house, it's perfectly acceptable to only talk about kids.

He can still talk to you about his day though - at least it'll get some conversation started.

I do sympathise though. I'm 3.5 years into SAHP and largely the conversation is out child and nursery, what's going on in my book, what's happened in his office, what's for dinner. After DS is down we watch telly together and talk about that.

You're tired, don't upset yourself trying to be mentally stimulating for your DP