Do you get along with your family?

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Just wanted to know how many people have genuinely close and supportive relationships with their family?

My brother and his wife don't speak to me and mine and we don't speak to them. We are wholly incompatible. But we also don't speak to most of my other relatives (not from a lack of trying). I also have 5 nephews that will never get to know their cousins/aunt/uncle/grandma. I sometimes feel desperately sad about it all, especially that our children won't know each other (my brother was sometimes very rude and authoritarian with my kids as well)

Does anyone else just feel sad about the breakdown of families and the impact it could have on kids? Some of my best memories are being with my aunts and uncles and nan and pop at Xmas time etc. I really wanted those same experiences for my kids. Anyway! Just wanted to know if people have similar thoughts?

My dc have no relatives except me and dh.
I often feel like some old people somewhere would appreciate my dc but it won't be my dps or dh's.
We are a very close family, even the dc who don't live at home any longer are still invested!!
Quality not quantity is more important imo.
Lots of stories on here of dc not being treated fairly /kindly.
That won't ever be an issue for us.

I used to feel sad for my kids but really I was looking at it with rose tinted spectacles. The family we dont deal with are toxic people it wouldnt actually be fair for the kids to have them in their lives, too much drama and not enough care.

Kids only care about who is there. Dont worty about it too much.

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Yes there has never been any fallouts in my family.

My MIL isn’t my biggest fan but we rub along okay when we see her. My brother in law lives an hour from us and he won’t have kids and hasn’t seen ours in two years. We get on okay with my parents and my sister is great but she lives in Australia so we only see her every other year.

Yes my inlaws are very difficult and despite our efforts have cut themselves off from us. My children don't have a relationship with their cousins, and a very superficial relationship with their grandparents. I find it really sad, and it eats me up, but despite my many attempts to build bridges, you cant rationalise with completely irrational people.

@Aprilshowersarecomingsoon - So true. I really need to put things into perspective. Besides I really don't think my kids notice as they don't know any different. It's more me that feels there's something missing (when there isn't)

Not close with my dad but my mum and sisters are my rocks. My favourite people to spend time with other than my husband. And my brother when he wants to be, hormonal teenager 🙄 my extended family I don't see that often I'm much closer with DH extended family even though they all live abroad.

I don't see any of my siblings, nieces, nephews etc. and don't keep in touch with them by phone or text or anything, don't do cards, or Christmas or any of it.

We haven't fallen out as such, we are just very different people with little in common. I occasionally run into one of them in town and we always say hello, make small talk and 'catch up'. Then scuttle off back to our own lives.

When my mum was alive it was a bit different as we would meet up from time to time at hers - she was the glue really. Once she died, there really wasn't anything else to hold us together.

Pretty much the same as Jitters.

I have a very close, supportive relationship with my parents, who see the DC regularly. We are fairly close to DH's parents but see them less frequently.

My brother and I are not particularly close - we get on well when we see each other, but don't have much in common. DH rarely sees or speaks to his brother who live overseas.

My DC only have one cousin (my brother's step daughter), they like her but don't meet up often. DH's brother is in his late 40s with no DC.

So a mixed bag!

We are a large family, I have a large family and so does DH. Probably about 50 of us in total. I love ech and every one of them.

We see them all regularly and there’s never any fallout.

My sister and I were like best friends until she found the Lord. Now she's a pompous pious do-gooder that I can't be in the same room as. So we don't talk, and that's fine. What I do find upsetting is that she's no longer in contact with my 3 DDs and my grandchildren.... who haven't got involved or done anything. She's also drawn most of our family into it, telling them all how "cruel" I've been, so most of them no longer talk to me.

My Mum finds it hard and keeps trying to draw her back in, but after she ruined Christmas crying three years ago because we weren't being respectful enough of Jesus , I won't get pulled into it. My Dad stays out of it, and happily talks to us both.

Nope. I’m NC with my Mum and one of my sisters, LC with the other two sisters. Mum was abusive to me. NC sister is very spiteful, petty, bitter, thinks the world owes her a living, does nothing but bitch and fucking moan. Isn’t happy unless she’s making someone miserable. LC sister are over a decade younger than me and we are very different people.

Close to my brother, Dad, Step Mum and Step Sister.