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So scared and confused, is my marriage over?

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Needafriend2019 · 10/02/2019 21:57

We've been married 10 years this month together 13, it's been a bumpy few years I feel like I'm unhappy and that myself and the children would be better off without him. I've always worked part time and been the main caregiver, I'm in my mid 40s now have a term time job with 14 months left of my contract. My children do love their dad dd is a real daddy's girl I think it would destroy her if we split I'm not sure she would recover. We recently moved into our forever home I paid for it outright from an inheritance it's registered as a 70/30 split I would like to stay here till youngest is 18 but not sure if that would be possible. I'm not sure if I would get to keep 70% of it.
I don't want to tear my family apart I'm scared about having to get a full time job with my age and lack of experience. I don't want to lose my home the children love it here. I think he would make things difficult if I asked him to leave.i don't want the children to have 2 homes and split time between us, he has a disability I'm not sure if he could manage the children on his own
Today I've been out shopping with dd as soon as we got in he went upstairs to watch tv he only came down to eat with us but barely said a word to us at the table this is what happens most days. I can't carry on like this but don't know what to do for the best. It's our anniversary next week and he told me to ask my mum to babysit so we can go out for a meal but I don't feel like celebrating.

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MumCatx2 · 11/02/2019 10:38

You sound confused. Being a single parent is not the end of the world, its just a future thats different to what you thought it would be. Citizens Advice Bureau can advise you on benefits etc you would be entitled to, mediation would help the two of you sort out the custody, house etc. I initially asked my xh to stay with a friend to give me space to think. Then you have the jouse and if you want him to stay away, hes already out. Good luck

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