Abuse from ex's ex

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Hi,
I've name changed for this. I don't want it to be outing.
I have 2dc one in primary one in secondary. I have an up and down relationship with their df, however, it has been better recently.
He has a habit of drinking too much and this can backfire negatively on the dc when he's done something embarrassing in the local pubs. The dc and I don't go in them, but people still feel the need to tell me what he has been up to.
The dc and I were walking our dog this evening past one of the local pubs and one of the girls he's been seeing in the past (15 years younger than him) came outside as we were walking past and starting laughing and shouting to us with her friend. I was mortified and scurried past. The dc wanted to know why daddy's friend behaved like that because she's normally 'really nice'.
I have absolutely no idea why she did this. I didn't even know she knew who I was.
Do I say anything and risk rocking the boat between my ex and I???

She sounds immature. I'd not bother saying anything. He'll just think you're causing trouble.

Tbf he’s not responsible for what an ex does esp when he isn’t even there

I would justhold my head up and ignore and encourage your kids to ignore also and walk past her.

Equally none of you can be responsible for his behaviour either so if people tell you what he has been doing just remind them it’s none of your business.

‘Thanks for that story but really it is nothing to do with me or my kids what X does so no point you telling me’

People are idiots

Thank you for your kind answers. You're both right. He can't control what she does. I just find her behaviour so bizarre.

It's just so suffocating sometimes living in a small area. When humiliated it's hard not to involve emotions.

No reason for you to be ashamed of his bahaviour not anyone he has subsequently been in a relationship with

You hold your head up high

People will always talk and gossip about others it’s human nature and not the nicest side of us but ignore it.

If it’s really suffocating living with your past around you then consider a move?

I have considered a move, many times, unfortunately I rely on him for childcare when I'm working - I'm often abroad on work trips. A move would means huge upheaval for all of us, although I think this could possibly be the right thing for us to do.