Still not over emotionally abusive ex

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It's been six months. I fell in love with him. Really in love. I'm 35 this year and need to get a move on with dating and finding other men. But I feel stuck.

Help?

Bump

How long were you with him?

Why not just go on a few casual dates and see how you get on?

Hi,

I feel exactly the same and I'm a similar age. It's been 4 months for me and I'm only just starting to feel better.

Have you written down all of the bad things? Try and do this - you can either keep it to read back or just get rid. Also write down and really think about all the things that you can do now that you've broken up. Are you more able to see friends or family, or do you feel less anxious?

I think also just allow yourself to feel upset. There's no set time. Six months is nothing in a lifetime. My emotionally abusive ex moved on after 3 weeks and had the cheek to tell me that he'd done 'everything he could to make things work'. But having a rebound wouldn't work for me, and that's OK.

Also try and remind yourself that what you're missing doesn't really exist. They were never that lovely person you thought they were, they will never change, and you broke up for a reason!

Hugs

Sending a hug. I am still in throes of divorcing my emotionally abusive h. I sometimes wonder if I will ever be ready to find someone else and if I do can I be sure he wont be like h.