Stuck in a loveless relationship

[Jaysmum2009]

Hi guys this is my first time hear so be nice lol. I feel so down and I feel asif I have nobody to talk to. I have been with my partner well if you want to call him that for 5 years now and it has been 5 years of hell. I’m so unhappy with him it’s unreal. I would have ended the relationship a long time ago but he is my only source of childcare as I work full time. Belive me he doesn’t let me forget how important he is and without him I couldn’t work. He is so, so verbally Abusive especially if I wake him up from doing the housework at 2pm I will be called a c...t and a bit.h. I started my driving lessons as I want to go to university and he didn’t speak to me for 2 days. I belive it to be a control thing. I haven’t been out with my friends in the whole 5years and it seems that now my social circle is very small and it consists of my co workers which are all female. Words can’t discribe how much I hate him. I feel like a stranger in my own house not to mention that he drinks everyday. I know that if I did ask him to leave he wouldn’t go and it would result in the police being called and I don’t want my daughter to have to see that. Can someone please give me some advice. Thankyou for reading

How old is your DD?

TBH going into a refuge sounds preferable to enduring his controlling nasty ways. Your DD will already be aware that she needs to be careful around him, why do you want that environment for her 😢 ?

Is there really no other source of childcare. He just wants you to believe that you could not manage without him. You cannot use him as childcare or as a reason for that matter to stay with him. He should not be within one mile of any of you. You have had five years already of his control and it will only get worse for you and your children going forward if you at all remain with him.

Please contact Women’s aid if you have not already done so and get your abuser out of your lives, he being there anyway is doing you all a great deal of emotional harm. Use the police here to get him out of your home and seek an occupation order. You may not want your daughter to see the police being called, but to be honest she has seen and heard too much from this man towards you already in her young life. She deserves to see a better relationship model than the one she is being shown now. This current set up cannot and must not become her norm because she as an adult could end up in an abusive relationship too.

Thankyou guys for replying, my daughter is nearly 10 so she is at an age were she knows right from wrong. Thankyou for mentioning about woman’s aid, I’m definitely going to give them a call tomorrow. 😘 I just feel so trapped. Maybe I need to look for a job that’s more accommodating to school hours. Seems like a poor excuse to stay in a volatile relationship but i litraly feel like he has me by the balls