Co-Parenting - DD ill in ex’s care, how much info would you expect?

[TooTragicToBeFunny]

DD is at her fathers this weekend.

Diagnosed with a urine infection on Friday. I handed over DD and medicication to ex Friday afternoon.

DD has got worse and showing symptoms of either an allergic reaction to the antibiotics or a serious complication with the infection.

Ex has hung up on me twice, won’t answer his phone and is refusing to answer me when I ask if he’s taking her to see a dr today and whether he has stopped medication (both things I asked him to do this morning).

How much communication about your sick DC do you receive / expect to receive from your co-parent?

You must be so worried and he is behaving very badly.
I would expect to be kept informed of your child's condition and what action/intervention has happened.
It is cruel and vindictive of him to behave the way he is doing. (And very immature).

I’ve just had a call to be told she’s at the drs. Not in time for me to have a change of also attending. And I was told I should be just trusting and leaving him to “sort it”, not asking questions. This from the man who had no intention this morning of stopping medication or seeing a doctor after DD was sick and hadn’t bothered to inform himself of possible effects / reactions to the medication she was prescribed.

I hope she is better today. Is she back with you?

You have parental rights so you can phone and ask the gp to call you and tell you how she was. Depends on how serious it is, my other half never tells me if my son has been ill and i always tell him off and get abuse in response. If you were calling a million times then he would be annoyed, sounds like he has been responsible and taken her to the gp. Maybe say next time either of us have this situation, we agree to send txt updates so we don't sit at home worrying that its worse than it is.