Hi Guys,
Im looking for advice or anyone who has experience of this kind of situation. Im hoping I can ask this as simply as possible lol. There is alot of detail/feelings around this but the main thing is:
I separated from my verbally abusive husband about 9 months ago. About 4 months ago I sparked up friendship with a guy I work with. We started talking as bizarrely I was on a course with him and my husband happened to be in the same building that day and was awful to me. The guy I work with was so so kind to me that day and we started talking since then. His situation is that he very sadly lost his wife a year ago. We have been talking daily for the last month. texting for 4-5 hours a night sometimes. We have a brilliant laugh, I think he is a great guy and I am falling for him. He has been so respectful with me and has only kind of slightly flirted with with me. I know it is difficult to know how anyone feels but I think he does like me. He mostly contacts me. I have tried to let him lead our interactions and give him space. He does mention his wife often so I really dont think he is emotionally ready at all to move on. He has a 9 year old girl and I have a 4 year old boy. I have to think of my son too. Its so hard as I am respectful of his situation but I really like him and would love to get to know him better. I really wish we had met each other in a year or two. The other complication is that we work together. I dont know what to do whether to be honest about how I feel and risk losing him out of my life altogether or to leave it, continue to be friends and see if anything develops. Im thinking of sending him a cute friendly valentines card nothing too heavy but hoping that it will put a smile on his face. What do you think? I am gutted as we both have so much going on for us both, so many feelings to be thought of (our own, children, friends, family) I just feeling down that it might all be too much for there ever to be anything, I know that I really like him.