Friend will take her husband back

[Asiam]

I need some advice.

Friend married 5 years, her husband cheated on her twice recently in 2 years. 1st time was over 8 months whilst she was pregnant. He begged her to forgive him and she did.

2nd just been found out, started a few months after the last one ended. He denied everything but then I contacted the girl and she didn’t know he was married. Showed my friend the proof and he said it was just sex. The proof shows it wasn’t.

3 weeks later she’s taking him back, he’s said the OW was a fruit loop and it started as sex. Then he got scared she would tell his wife so had to keep it going. My friend believes him.

I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried to talk to her and make her see. He’s a liar and if this lady was a fruit loop then the proof doesn’t show that.

I’ve also heard from reliable friends that he’s been seen with other women.

I’m so frustrated

I think he will push you out as you're a threat to him. And sadly your friend will go along with it as she seems desperate enough to go along with his bullshit.

All you can do is stress to her that you care about her very much and that you will always be there for her and her kids. And hope that one day she comes to her senses.

Appreciate all your advice. When you have been friends this long it’s hard.

I text her today after the call saying if she needs me I’m always here for her. She replied saying “I need my husband to love me. This is my fault and I need to make it right with him. He’s sorry and I forgive him”

I cannot do anymore

He will now make sure she cuts you out of her life.

**Bow out gracefully, love

You cannot help her**

^This

Dear god OP, he's done a real number on her. I'm so sorry, it's totally shit for you. You've handled it really well and left the door open if she needs you. I feel your pain because I lost a long friendship last year partly because of her controlling husband so I know how it hurts

Honestly, she's a fool and she will get hurt time and time again.

But she's an adult making an active choice to stay with a man who treats her like shit.

I'd walk away.

It's very hard when your friends with someone and you don't want to see them get hurt , I've been in a similar position with a friend and she took him back time and time again . I took a step back and in the end she realised herself and left him and I was there to support her

Your loyalties lie with her, not him
If she’s pushing you away then I’d walk away, but if she’s trying to justify her decision then just let her, but be her friend? It’s easy to get frustrated but it’s not your life

What a knob he sounds, and she sounds really weak. Yes leave the door open for her that you are here for her if she ever wants to be in touch in the future.

I don’t know what to do.

You can't do anything. She wants to believe him and carry on being married to him. Nothing you say will change that.

If you do anything further he will ensure your friendship ends.