I'm feeling really down

[TwinkleMerrick]

My now ex left me and our 8 month old baby over Xmas. He has shown no remorse, given no explanation. I've been so strong until now, with Valentine's Day looming and I have to attend a wedding alone tomorrow, I'm feeling really down. I went back to work last week and I'm exhausted, I've been poorly with a cold so that doesn't help. No question just fed up, sad and a bit lonely. I have no one to talk to about it because everyone is happily coupled off, I can't say anything to my family because they just worry about me and it makes the whole situation worse.

Oh OP, my heart goes out to you. My DD’s Dad left when she was 5 months old, just before Christmas so I completely get how you’re feeling. A virtual hug for you

The good news is that it does get easier, my DD is 6 this year and we are such a strong unit. Whilst it’s not the life I would have chosen for us we are genuinely happy. You sound like you’ve been really brave, hats off to you for coping so far and going back to work. The one thing I would say is that I’d try and talk to your family if you can, the support I’ve has from my DM and DSis has been invaluable. Here for a chat if you want to.

That's really hard twinkle and it's no wonder you're fed up. Did he just up sticks with no previous problems? It seems an utterly shit way to treat you and your baby, but honestly you are better off alone than with a man who can treat you both in such a shabby fashion - one day you will come to realise this but it must be so, so hard at the moment.

I would urge you though to confide in your family - of course they will be concerned, because they care for you. It's part of being part of a family to worry about and care for and support each other - a trouble shared is a trouble halved and all that.

It's a lot to keep to yourself, and struggle on alone .

Sorry to hear of your situation that is devastating. It will get better and you will be happy in future its just a different future to what you envisaged. Its hard when he has been so uncaring about your feelings but that is often how they behave and its v hurtful. Have you some good friends to confide in and to support you? When my marriage ended i thought ive never get over it - i was 35 and we’d been together since i was 17. I had counselling which helped. I had lots of bad days then a few ok days then the odd good day. Looking back It was the making of me i was independent and free. Im much happier now.

for you OP.

Please tell your family so they can look after you and provide some RL support.