My other half and I have been together 7 years, with 2 young daughters (5 and 2).
Recently we have been struggling financially due to me having to leave my job - with high childcare and travel costs along with other bills I seemed to be loosing money each month.
As a result finances have been tight and previously we were on the verge of buying a house but now that just seems to be pushed further away.
Now he wants to move 3/4 hours away to be near, and in first instance live with, his parents. I understand his reason for wanting to do this, cheaper cost of living etc but with his parents working full time it’d be exactly the same with childcare, just with a more frequent babysitter should we wish to go out in the evening. But the real issue seems to be he is fed up of paying the majority of the bills ( he earns the bigger salary and still works full time).
He has a very turbulent relationship with his family not to mentioned our life is here and I’m aware me moving there would make me feel incredibly isolated and I would soon be unhappy (long weekends there are just about enough for everyone).
I just feel at a loss as he doesn’t seem to understand why I don’t want to move there, Yes we may not own a house and money will be tight for a few months but I don’t see that as being the end of the world. We have a roof over our head and two happy girls and now it’s gotten to the point he’s considering moving on his own - whether this is just him throwing his toys out the pram I don’t know, but it’s frustrating that he doesn’t seem to comprehend how much of a big move it would be and we’d still have to rent a new place (as I’m certain his parents wouldn’t want us staying there long term) leaving us in the exact same boat, just with a potential free evening babysitter.