How many people do you talk to daily?

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I'm trying to get a sense check on something I guess.

I have a close friend (M) who lives abroad. We talk online every day, usually more than once as much as the different time zones allow, and it's not unusual to wake up in the morning and have more than one message he's sent while I'm asleep. The messages range from the inane to the intense, the little details (ie how did you sleep?) to the big stuff (major milestones and when things go wrong).

I don't mind when we're chatting but whenever I take a step back it all feels a little unusual and intense and I'm not sure what to make of it.

Do you have anyone you talk to this often? I don't, but have no idea if I'm one of many for him or not. I don't know if I'd be overthinking this if it was a woman friend but have never had a friendship like this before, male or female.

I guess I was wondering if you have people you talk to every day?

Ummm so far today I have talked to Dp, best friend, my director, security at my work and about 5 colleagues.

Work people I speak to everyday. We all have a habit of logging on each day, to make sure we aren't missing anything. We are all quite good friends too.

My best friend and I speak to 4 or 5 times a day? I picked her and brought her to my office for breakfast today as she works round the corner. I will speak to her at lunch and then tonight with a few messages in between.

Dp works night so I won't hear from him until about 3pm then a few messages then will see him when I get home.

Boys that's interesting. I guess it's one of those things were it's hard to know what other people do.

I talk to workmates every day, but don't when I'm not at work. I don't have anyone else I talk to daily, but lots of people (including family) that I'd probably chat to online once every week or two. So more low-level contact I suppose.

Most days just one. My youngest daughter.

Apart from colleagues, do you talk to amyone you know face to face on a regular basis?

Yeah I see lots of friends, family etc face to face but usually not more than once a week per person. I have quite a few friends/social things, I've just not used to it feeling so intense which is why I find it confusing

I rarely see any friends more than once a week. We get on each others' nerves if we do.

"My best friend and I speak to 4 or 5 times a day?"

I'm really amazed by that.

Most days just my DH and 2 teens (if they are in a communicative mood!)
I work from home in a consultancy role so have no colleagues. All communication is through email.
I might pop to the shops some days.
Speak with my mum once or twice a week.
Couple of activities a week where I will speak to others.
No real friends as such.

sorry, apostrophe in the wrong place after other

Amazed? We used to work together and then we worked together and i moved in with her, after I had to flee my martial home with the kids.

So I suppose we are used to being with eachother all the time. Now we don't work or live together we feel like we don't get enough time together. Even though the only days I don't see her is Monday and Tuesdays.

Have you ever met him in real life?

The only people I talk to this much are immediate family.

Yes - we were good friends before we lived in different countries. Back then I'd see him weekly or so. We'd chat often, but not like now.

If I'm at work then lots of friends/colleagues. Other friends and family once or twice a week. I have a grown up DS who I text and talk to often.

DP and I are long distance at the moment so we talk every day and text multiple times. So the only person I talk to every day without fail is DP (oh, and Dcat of course!)

I talk to my DP every other day when we are not together - we live in different cities - for up to an hour & a half. We text several times every day.

I speak to my mum once or twice a week, & my son every two or three weeks, with a few texts in between.

I text or speak to friends I don't see very often roughly monthly.

I have friends who I talk to every day, some I talk to off and on all day. If it's too much for you let him know!

I talk to DP all day. Some work colleagues most days.

Besides that no one. Message friends probably every few weeks. Maybe more maybe less.

My DP speaks to some of his friends all day on instant messenger things. Because it's dead at their works/they have cushy jobs so they're sending links etc etc. No "morning" messages though. I do find that weird and a bit intimate- I would feel uncomfortable with that as those aren't the type of friendships I have.

Most days I will just speak to 1 person - my DH. I work for him but from home (he works out of the home)

Often I will speak to the postie, a courier, a Tesco delivery man at various points of the week

Once a week I go to a toddler group with MIL and my twin nephew and niece (2 years old)

I regularly text friends, my SIL, my cousin to stay in touch, have a catch up/gossip or make arrangements with them.

I really quite like the lack of human contact in my life

I usually "talk" to my BFF a few times a day. Our schedules don't usually match so we tend to leave audios and messages via WhatsApp rather than speaking "live".

I usually speak to my son every 2-3 days.

I message my sister every other day and we usually speak once a month.

Too many

I would find that amount of online chat intrusive.

DH and I message each other in little flurries. Today we had one flurry while trying to coordinate some proposed travel for work and family commitments. We had another flurry swapping some stupid jokes. Tbh we message like that maybe every other day? We are married enjoy stupid jokes, have logistical nightmare lives, and can check messages easily a few times a day even at work.

Best friend and I have a flurry of messages about once a week.

I'd find your friend's level of messaging to be intrusive. I'd set myself to appear to be offline a lot more and be slower at answering the messages. Give yourself more time where he's not taking up mental energy.

I talk to dh many times a day, dd2 (15), ds (17), dd1 usually phones (she's 19 and lives away at uni). I speak most days to my bf and several times a week to other friends. Plus I have a leg ulcer at the moment so speak to the nurses twice weekly.

Do you think he might believe the two of you are in a long-distance relationship? Or be trying to start one? I'd find "how did you sleep" messages a bit much. Only do that with the bf if the other has gone to bed late or there's some reason to think their sleep was an issue.

I work alone from home, but for instance was just exchanging a couple of messages with my mum and an ex-bf (he does that with many, many women!). Might get a gossipy phone call from a work colleague, she calls once or twice a week. Text the (grown) kids every day or two a few times. Bf slightly less often as we meet up more. Then the odd message from friends every week, but most are not into whatsapp really (age 50ish).

I chat to DH daily, if he’s working he generally phones a couple of times. Text my mum a couple of times daily and chat on the phone every day, I have a group chat with 3 friends that we tend to message a few times a day, I chat to people on the school and nursery runs and usually do about 4 activities with the kids a week. I have other people I text weeklyish.

This is so interesting. I should probably figure out how many other people he talks to this often before I read too much into it. He could be like some pp’s and I’m one of many

I talk to my children everyday. My boyfriend lives an hour away and we see each other once a week, we message lots everyday. We don't do good morning texts though, sometimes no communication to mid afternoon. My best friend maybe we message on 2 or 3 days of the week. Other friends maybe 1 or 2 days of the week.