Would you rather love or be loved?

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Obviously the ideal scenario is that you and your partner love each other equally. But, if one partner loved the other slightly more, say 51% vs 49%, would you rather love or be loved? Is that your current situation?

I would rather be the one who loves my partner slightly more.

And I dont mind talking about it because here is the only place I can! I wouldn't talk about it in real life out of respect for the people we tried to have relationships with as I'd imagine it would be quite hurtful.

I think I’ve been in both situations (although, as others have said, it’s hard to be sure that it isn’t just that one person is more demonstrative), and I’d rather be the one who loves more.

Ribbonsonabox this is quite an extraordinary story! It reminds me of The Remains of the Day, but with a happy ending. (And obviously completely different life circumstances...)

Be loved.

Definitely love. Surely everyone wants to feel so full of love and overwhelmed by how much you care for your other half that you feel they can't possibly love you any more than you love them. Being loved is wonderful, but loving is the best feeling you can have.

Incidentally, the question of "who loves who more" came up at a party game on NYE and my partner and I both said ourselves.

Very interesting question ! That feeling of being in love and the rush of it is just about the best feeling you can have. But I've wondered in the past if it's a slightly selfish thing ? Part of loving is about how the other person makes you feel. So by being in love and you get feelings you are not really able to control of that makes sense, you wouldn't get those feelings if you didnt love the person ?

That sadly doesn't last forever and I haven't really answered have I

Oh, I prefer to love all the way.

In the words of the wonderful Transvision Vamp: 'You don't have to say you love me ...... I don't care'

After experiencing severe heartbreak. I decided that it was more important to be loved than be in love. I now am worried if I love more than I am loved where do I stand? I never want to feel heartbreak again. I entered this relationship determined that I would always be loved more than I love. That was 17 years ago and I am still determined that if he doesn't love me more than I love him I can still leave. The truth is, I don't think it makes a difference, it hurts either way.

I have considered this before and I prefer to love. It can be painful to love someone more than they love you but there is also that feeling of being in love. When someone loves you and you don't love them it doesn't really feel like being loved. It's not rewarding if it's not mutual.

I've been in both situations and am very affectionate with a lot of love to give so maybe that's why I enjoy it.

I don't believe that being loved can feel as good as it can feel if you don't love the person doing the loving. So my answer would be to love.

Sheelala - I definitely make a distinction between feeling love for someone, and feeling "in love" - which has precious little to do with love, imo.

I definitely make a distinction between feeling love for someone, and feeling "in love" - which has precious little to do with love, imo

What do you mean ? Being in love, and loving someone can be the same. Either way loving feels good ? Lol imagining Barry White singing that.

Doyoumind

Indeed ! Being loved by someone you don't feel the same about is awkward. Much better to be mooning than feel awkward.

I would always rather be loved more.