Is this married life normal

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Married for twelve years together for fifteen and we have three dc. Just feeling completely unappreciated and unloved. My husband rarely compliments, never appreciates all I do for the family and generally feel fed up with our relationship. I know the grass is always greener but sad to think if this is my lot it's going to be a long slog of a marriage?

Well, I think it’s pretty normal in a long marriage with young children. Is it acceptable? Of course not.

Have you told him how it makes you feel? Does he also agree that the relationship has become stale? If you haven’t had a proper conversation with him then that needs to be something you instigate now so that you can work out whether the marriage is salveable; whether you want to save it; and if so, how you both go about appreciating the other more and demonstrating that you love each other.

Pretty much how my marriage is. Married almost 13 years, 3 kids. He goes to work i now stay at home. He has a meal waiting every night aslong as youngest has gone to sleep ok. I rarely get a thank you or help with washing up. Days off he spends sat at his pc. Again no help with any housework. I'm pretty fed up atm. I made the stupid mistake of getting involved in an EA. I'm not proud. Just wanted to feel something again

A lot of men are like this. I buy myself flowers and tell him that he paid for them! I book us dinners out, sexy weekends away etc, that normally opens his eyes and he gets all lovey dovey and appreciative. In a perfect world he would book it himself, but it works for us. Hes always willing to try things so i book concerts, or theatre tickets and tell him after! Marriage should also be fun sometimes, but try to help the fun happen