Is my Friend attracted to me?

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I have had a close male friend since last summer.. we have shared everything about our lives, relationship s issues etc have a shared sense of humour and generally "get each other" He's an all round lovely guy
Over the last couple of our shared jokes have turned slightly sexual and he basically said he was gagging for sex( and tbh so am I!) when I last saw him, he kissed me lightly on the lips instead of the usual cheek
Do you think he could be attracted to me, or the flirty nature of texts mean that he's just thinking about sex in general? I find it hard to tell
I'm happy on my own and not looking for a relationship but I am attracted to him I'm almost certain that our friendship changed to FWB But does he actually want me... or sex with whoever? I'd be grateful for opinions

You're going to have to ask him - or ramp up the sexual innuendo and see what happens. Be warned though, if your relationship turns physical and it all goes wrong, it will be hard to go back to being flirty friends again.

I'm almost certain that our friendship changed to FWB

So you're already fucking him? I dunno, is the sex good? If the sex is good and you like him as a person then give it a few months and ask him if he sees something more than FWB in your futures.

Give it a go, why not?

Have you had sex with him? If it's changed to Fwb then this would indicate yes, if it's a no , then it ain't changed,

OopsApologies One wrong word changes the complex completely
We have not had sex yet, but have been single a while, so I would be happy if it did change to FWB, also that it recently dawned on me that I do fancy him although we met as friends

Why not eh? Take his cues and flirt equally in response!

You never know where it could lead

Go for it!

Go for it.

Thank you for your encouraging replies.He has just messaged me to ask if I'm free on Saturday,we live 20 miles apart,I will work out my strategy!
At the age of 54'i still find it hard to tell if a guy fancies me or they see me as just a friend

He definitely wants sex and if you do too it's time to pounce

How old is he? Is seperated, divorced, kids?

I am afraid that I am long past just wondering whether he fancies me or not, there are a lot of other questions I would be asking before I slept with him!

He's 48, divorced with 2 sons 20,22
Definitely single having moved south last summer... No red flags at all!

Forgot to add, I'm 54, Divorced 3 adult sons Not looking but suddenly hit me that I have feelings for him

Sounds like you are not up for FWB then, feelings do not work in that situation.

Suggest a date, and dont sleep with him until you have had at least half a dozen dates. How he acts will tell you if he wants a relationship or just sex.

Go for it but recognise you don’t want FWB. That’s pretty clear from this post.

I also don't think you want friends with benefits.

This means he is free to date other women. That he is not dating you. That there is no love or romance. It's just mates having rhe occasional shag.

Can you do this? How will you feel when he meets someone, see him on dating sights etc.

So I think before you let this develop, if he goes there, simply ask him where he sees this going, what he is looking for, is it a relationship or just fwb,, because if you just hope he will develop romantic feelings for you, because you have sex with him, you're likely to get very hurt indeed.

Further to my post; I asked him if he wanted me or just my erm orifice
His reply...." Both!
Call me dense but I'm still wondering
Hoping someone could please enlighten me...l clearly I've been single(3years)too long

Well of course you are. You didn't actually ask him that did you? Why didn't you just ask the question if he wanted fwb or a romantic relationship. You're not 18.

Sounds like he’s looking for than just FWB then! How exciting for you

Op, I also think this is fwb,but you asked it in such a way he could only answer in one of two ways,

It's you I'm interested in, the orifices are a bonus,,,,he wants a relationship,
Both,,,fwb, because he sure as hell cant say well it's just your orifice. Can he?

Are you not asking him, because you know the answer and don't want to hear him say it?

By text as its easier to say and isnt going to be misunderstood

"Hey, this is a bit awkward but I need to ask! Are you looking for FWB type arrangement or hoping for a proper relationship? I am asking because I really like you but I am not the kind of person who can just be "friends with benefits". If you are after something casual thats fine, no offence taken and I would still want to be friends with you! But I dont want to go any further with this if we are looking for different things, I find it best to be honest. I hope you had a good time at *blah blah insert small talk here .... Hope you hear from you soon xx"

Done.