Post separation family

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Jusr venting. His mother was always a little bit odd but I am also fond of her. She wants to maintain contact with the GC. However she seems to want to turn a blind eye to her son and what he has done. Leaving us including a baby, starting up with a young colleague, claiming no overlap. Of course she will, it’s her son. My kids need to be exposed to people with good morals.
I honestly thought they were such decent people. Him too. It feels like some weird film where you realise none of the characters were who you thought they were.
Sorry if this doesn’t quite make sense.

She may look like shes doing that but she may have voiced her opinion to him on the matter already, you just dont know about it. I was in your position 3 years ago, his parents were lovely but irrelevant of wether they were happy with his behaviour, (they werent) he was their son and they loved him, so stood by him. It dosent mean that they have no morals, both my exs parents are dead now, but i had a close relationship with both even after the divorce, and that was beneficial for the dc.

That’s a good point thanks. I didn’t expect anyone would reply to my rather nonsensical OP

I wonder what you’d like from her though? If she cut her son off surely you’d also think badly of her?
I wouldn’t take this out on her or blame her; she’s in a difficult position probably trying to keep the peace with everyone while very likely feeling angry and upset with her son.
I don’t necessarily see that you need to keep having that much contact with her if it’s upsetting to you; her son can arrange your DC seeing her and keep her updated on them. It’s nice for the DC to keep in contact and can be useful if you need help but you don’t have to.

She's bound to want to believe her son, she loves him.

Him cheating on you doesn't mean he can't be a good father or that his mother can't be a good grandmother. It sounds like you want to deny contact because of it, and that isn't about demonstrating "good morals" around your child, even if that's how you're dressing it up for yourself. It's pure wounded feelings.

She is a very avoidant person. She would rather stick her head in the sand than face an issue. (STBX got this from her)
If something is difficult she will prefer to run away. She just did it yesterday while we were chatting and something awkward cAme up, pretended her lap top was on low charge and has to recharge (at 20%)

Urgh it helps to write this out even if going nowhere with it

Ahh more replies, thanks!

No just sifting it out. Yes you are right it is wrong to deny contact.

Have to try to work out what is best for the kids and do that. What will make their lives richer as better.

Yes it must be a hard position for her to be in