Dear all,
I recently found messages on my boyfriend's phone to a woman that we had met at a New Year's party last year. I know i shouldn't have been snooping but there some kind of woman's intuition told me to do so. The messages were from a year ago and in the ones that i saw (i took pics of them) they were very flirty, saying that he was thinking about her and vice versa and he said that he had finished the relationship that he was in because it wasn't working out for him (we were still together at that point). I was so shocked.
I confronted him and i lost my cool, (i regret that reaction, i should've thought about it first) and went to see the girl that he was texting. They had met up once and nothing happened (both say this) but now he is ignoring me, no reply to my messages or calls and all i want is an explanation.
He's been going through a bit of a mid-life crisis lately and i think the messages were in some way, a vain attempt to validate himself and feel better but i am so hurt at the deceit. The fact that he never told me and went behind my back, it so hurtful.
I know its over but would just like to get some advice from people who have maybe gone through the same thing.
Cheers,
K