Hi,
I just want some advice on a situation.
I started seeing my ex boyfriend from 15 years ago last August. We met for a drink and our relationship was always very 'sexual' and we ended up going back to his place.
I've seen him three times since August (he travels a lot between London and Italy).
I've been going through a divorce/ separation from my husband and to cut a long story short, my ex was making me taking me back to the person I was before (my husband has been physically and emotionally abusive, always putting me down, cant do anything right, etc).
When I was going through my divorce initially, my ex backed off as he didn't want to get in the middle of anything. I also knew I wasn't ready for anything emotionally.
My ex has made it clear (as did I) that we didn't want anything but fun, no commitment and no strings attached (He's planning to leave the UK at some point).
However, the last time we met on the weekend (I've now moved out of my martial home and going through the divorce process), we were supposed to meet for a few hours and he asked to stay the night and we ended up having a lot of fun (not just sex) and he initiated cuddling and spooning in bed (things that didn't happen before and I know is very intimate for him as he's bit of a closed book).
We were together for four years and I am sure there is chemistry there. He was telling me things from the past and when I said I'd remembered he said he was testing me to see if I'd remembered. We also chat about the past a bit like first experiences etc.
I know he's leaving and its casual, but I think I maybe getting the feels for him and maybe him for me, but I'm not sure.
If I text him, he responds within minutes and he just seems very keen now I am separated.
We have so much in common and I just think its strange that we've come together after so long and still seem to like each other.
It could be that he's doing the same with other women (but I'm pretty certain we have a connection that's deeper than sex!).
He came over on Sunday at 7pm and left at 11am on Monday.
I don't want a relationship, don't know what I want, but I think I like him and want to avoid getting hurt.
Anyone else had this type of experience and any thoughts on this situation?
Be gentle with me, I really need to look at positives and not negatives of this situation. Thank you x