Please respond to this sensitively. I know it's not something I should minimise, but I have an awful lot on my plate more generally at the moment and not looking for 'LTB' type comments. It's not that sort of a situation.
I've been with my husband for well over a decade. We have a loving relationship throughout this period, but I've recently been experiencing some mental health issues due to illness and job loss. He has found not knowing how to help difficult to deal with and been verbally unpleasant at times.
The other night I was fidgeting in bed and he turned to me and made a gun symbol next to my head and the noise of it firing. I was dozy with tiredness and just trying to digest what had happened when he turned to me and said, 'If you do this again, I'll bash your head in'. I was exhausted so admonished him very briefly, but he seemed to already be asleep again as I was talking. I fell asleep too. We'd had a lovely weekend, it was totally out of the blue.
The next day, I messaged him to say how horrified I was, and he immediately apologised and said he was disgusted with himself. I said to him that I didn't feel physically threatened as such, but that I was concerned about where this aggression had come from. He has said he can't answer me, the only thing he assumes is that he was half asleep. We had a chat when he came home along similar lines.
He has never said anything like this to me before.
I've suggested he get counselling or look into support groups for people living with someone with mental health issues. Is there anything else I can do here? I'm conscious that I'm overloaded at the moment and any reaction I have may not be appropriate.
Thank you.