Should i leave or say for my son

[Los77]

Hello everyone
Its my first post and my apologies as I do not know all the jargon.

I found out just before xmas that my husband was texting a woman from work. I confronted him after the new year and he said it was just friends and promised that he wouldn't text her again. He also told me a week later that she was no longer working there. We agreed to make it work. I later found that she is still working there, he basically lied to me..he then said that he only lied to me to avoid stress and that he is committed to us. I then found out that he is still texting her....and that he had deleted her number as he knows I check his phone but he knows it and texts her when he is at work, buying her lunch etc and inviting her to go with him to the next work do... we had a big fight and he's now saying that it's all over and giving me his phone to check etc and he wants me to forget about it all and make it work...I don't know what to do. Please help.

Sorry... read that post to yourself again.

At what point has he shown you any respect or honesty?

Why on earth should you put up with that?

Why would you want that man setting an example to your son - on how to be a human, on how to be in a relationship, on how to treat someone they supposedly love?

He has lied to you multiple times. He had his opportunity to be truthful and he failed to do so.
If he's still texting this woman and buying her lunch, even after you found out about it... he is blatantly disrespecting you. He has no care for your feelings. His actions have potentially ripped your family unit apart.

Prepare yourself for being told it's your fault your son will be hurt by it (despite the fact it's caused by his own actions).

If you stay with him, you are basically telling him it's okay to lie to you and it's okay to cheat on you.

Be brave OP, make the right decision. It sounds like he needs a good sharp shock to his system and ego to realise what a fuck up he's making.

Make sure you have somewhere to go and a contingency plan in place first obvs. But don't put up with his shit.

((Hugs))

Thank you... you are so right..yesterday I told him I was leaving. I got into my car and just drove. He called me 30 mins later and I didn't answer. he kept calling about 15 times. I texted him to leave me alone. He said that I should think of my son before doing anything stupid...
Few years ago he said he was suffering from ED..when we had the fight he told me that he didn't find me sexually attractive anymore. I don't understand, does he suffer from ED or is it me?
today he called me at work asking if am ok or if am eating, like he cares. I cant get my head around all this. Am a nervous wreck.

Your answer back there should have been "You weren't thinking of our son when you were chatting up another woman were you?"

ED or you? I'd say it's him... what a prick. Who says that? 🤷🏻‍♀️

He called you at work because a) he might be feeling some guilt and b) he wants to check if you're still thinking of leaving.

He doesn't sound like a nice bloke OP. It's scary to ditch em, the prospect is scary, I know. But once you're free you'll be astounded at why you put up with the shitbag in the first place 😂

Like I say, make sure you're all set up ready to go before you announce anything. I've been in that relationship where they've cheated on you and you constantly worry about trust being broken again. Once it's broke, ain't no fixing it.