I'm in love with a man but he's unavailable, so I'm distracting myself with someone else

[GrievingDaughter]

I care for this other guy too but the one I think I'm in love with (or at least have very strong feelings for) is the one I am desperate for he's always on my mind and when I work with him (we work together) I am happier then ever but of course after a shift with him I end up leaving depressed cause he's gone and he will never feel the same for me. The other man and I aren't anything serious yet but I still feel bad doing what I'm doing I just don't want to be alone and when I am alone I turn to other unhealthy methods of coping like sleeping way to much to distract myself from it all or drinking... What should I do?

The colleague, do you have a friendship outside of work which could potentially develop into someting more? Or is it just a crush

I think you should look at why you're feeling so low. Is your username accurate, have you been bereaved recently? Are you receiving any support? It's unusual to feel you have to turn to drink to cope with unrequited attraction.

I would consider going to the gp if you're feeling so awful. I don't think either of these men are the solution.

We hang out outside of work too, sometimes he may even show a little bit of interest and be a bit flirty but it means nothing its just innocent on his part. I think I fell for him too fast like crush wise and for me at least its developed way past what it should be.

Yes, you have a crush, but the impact it is having on you is wholly disproportionate.

I was wondering about your username too. Because if the core issue is grief, turning to a man isn't going to help just as turning to drink won't.

I think you should consider grief counselling, perhaps via GP