Try for another baby?

[Lyljlsajt95]

Hello, I have a one year old boy and would like to try for another in May (me and my partner would of been together for a year at that time) by the time the second is here my boy will be just over 2 years, my partner and I have spoke about another as this will be his 1st and my 2nd he’s such a great step daddy already and can’t wait to see him with his own, is it really difficult going from 1-2? I’m just worried my 1st will be too young but I don’t want a big age gap and hoping that by then he’ll be talking properly and be able to walk up and down the stairs in our flat, any advice would be helpful especially if the age gap is similar!

I agree with previous poster, you should definitely take these factors into account before making thr decision to have another baby. For example, I am 38 and engaged to a man with no biological children of his own (he wanted them but it didn't happen with his ex-wife sadly). I have two sons - 8 and 11 - that live with us for half of the time.
So in an ideal world we would love nothing more than to have a baby together. At 38 I don't have the luxury of time to wait. BUT the harsh reality is we simply can't afford it. For the first time ever in my working life I lost my job and so now am currently out of work. Desperately trying to get a new job but it will take a little while. And even if we were both working which we normally are, we can't afford to rent/buy a house that would be big enough for an extra child. We are currently four of us in a privately rented two-bed. So it's out of the question for us.
Have you considered things such a finance? I know it's not very "romantic" but it is important. Kids are very expensive!!!

Does he earn more than you? Will you be the stay at home parent? If so, get married first and give yourself some financial protection. You’re also more likely to stay together as married parents than unmarried parents.

You’re so young, there really is no rush to TTC with someone you’ve only been with a year.

@ImNotKitten

You’re also more likely to stay together as married parents than unmarried parents.

Statisically this may be the case, but this has it's negatives. I married a man who turned out to be an abuser and he made it so much harder to leave him because I'd married him. It also made things far more difficult as far as child custody went.

Why don’t you make a commitment together that isn’t a baby- buy a home together or get married?