Getting back with an ex

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Hello, please give me some insight!

I had a boyfriend two years ago who was my best friend and we were extremely close and in love. Further down the line, I became very depressed with mental health problems and family problems which changed me and made me want to leave him as I didn't think he deserved me. We broke up and he was devastated, especially because (and I know I'll get flamed for this) I broke up with him over text. Anyone with depression and anxiety may be able to understand but I know it was a stupid move! Two years later, I find myself in regret and wishing I still had him in my life. I believe I am still very much in love with him. My whole family misses him too, we were extremely close and for the past two years I have thought about him a lot. Has anyone ever got back with any of their exes? May I add he never did anything wrong to me, and I never did to him. Do you think it'd be wise to get back in contact? I'm trying to think how I could

No don’t. You’ve already put him through the ringer, he’s probably only just getting over it? You had your chance and you fucked it up in a very bad way.
Sometimes in life it’s not all about you or how you feel. You need to let people go and be glad that their happy.
Contacting him would be extremely selfish.

Completely agree with Travis...it's not been 2 weeks or 2 months...get over yourself and stop trying to make a fool of this guy..you reap what you sow in life

Wow, people are being a little harsh here. If you have unresolved feelings related to when you broke up or you miss him, it's best to unpack these with a counsellor or someone else impartial. Sometimes you need to let it all out. But he's not the person to do that with - let him move on and be happy.
Are you still struggling with MH stuff now. What brought this up in your mind, or did you miss him the whole time?

You could send a chirpy message asking how he is and see what happens, but 2 years is a long time and you have to be very aware that he's almost certainly moved on by now - you may still be in love, or think that you are, but he'll be in a whole different place. Are you strong enough at the moment to cope with that?

If your mental health is good now, his perfectly reasonable rejection after 2 years might not be good for you. Put it out of your mind and move on. I'm sure he has.

I don’t think it would be fair to contact him now.

2 years later? He's probably moved on. Ime when you are best mates etc, they contact you after a few months to see how you are especially when they know you have health issues.

I've got back with an ex before (although not after such a long time - only 6 months or so I think.)

It was a massive mistake. I'd moved back in with my mum and we weren't getting on, so rather than look for a houseshare I went back to ex, because I knew he would take me and I wanted to be wanted.

My MH was not in a good place and it was a bad decision. We rather quickly got engaged and bought a house together in an attempt to plaster over the cracks. So when we inevitably split up 18 months later it was much more of a headache than just finding somewhere new to rent.

It was really manipulative of me because I knew our relationship was terminally ill but on life support.

Although it worked out well for him - within 2 weeks of me moving out, he'd moved another woman in, and he's still with her nearly 20 years later!

I’m not trying to be harsh
But you have no concept of how hard it was for him to try and move on.
Just learn from your mistakes, don’t dump someone who is the love of your life by text (clearly not the love of your life) and then when YOU feel a bit better try and get back in contact because you and your family miss him
That smacks of slightly narcissistic behaviour

From his point of view, he would likely think he did all the right things by you, loved you and all that went with it, best friends, got on with your parents, then you dump him out of the blue via a text message. So in his mind, why would he be remotely interested in someone who can drop him at a moments notice for no good reason, and certainly not for anything he did wrong. He will have moved on by now and even if he thinks about you now and then, i doubt he will take a risk with you a second time. If he hasn't kept in touch all this time, your no longer in his mind. As for using depression as an excuse for texting him, sorry, that's not a good reason (and I understand depression & anxiety very well). You took the cowards way out for self pitying reasons. Move on and leave the poor man alone.