My daughter

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My daughter is 12 years old, and she recently went to a disco with boys, organised by school because it is all-girls. There were boys and girls playing spin the bottle, lots of kissing even though I think they are a bit young, and I feel like she wants to join in and act older than she is (makeup, boyfriend because thats what lot of her classmates are doing) but feels that she can't. Any help on what to do and speak to her about would be great, thank you!

You've said what you want to speak to her about, haven't you? In your post.

Why not ask her if what you think she feels, is what she is truly feeling?

Dis she tel you about spin the bottle?? If so, that's a good start. Does she socialise with boys outside of school?

she doesn't yet, but she wants to go with her friends to see a couple of boys on the weekend

and yes, she did tell me about spin the bottle. she is quite open with me about things which helps a lot

I’d be asking her school why they organise discos for 12yos with a boy’s school that openly turn into spin the bottle games and snogfests

I did my fair amount of snogging at that age, it’s natural and generally pretty harmless. But I’d take a dim view of a school engineering the situation.

It’s great that she’s open with you. Create opportunities where you can talk uninterrupted, and ask her. What do you mean when you say she feels she can’t? I can’t quite understand from your post whether she wants to wear make up and date, or not.